File this under: in case you were still wondering.  According to Starpulse, Ben Affleck has admitted the reason why his relationship with actress/singer/media mogul Jennifer Lopez ended: too accessible to the media.  The couple met in 2002 and dated until they ended their relationship in 2004 shortly before they were due to be married.  Bennifer was a very high profile relationship, with Affleck starring in her music video, “Jenny from the Block” and the two pairing onscreen in box-office bomb, Gigli.  Affleck says, “I think Jen and I made a mistake in that we fell in love, we were excited and maybe too accessible. I don't think either of us anticipated the degree to which it would take on a world of its own.” Bennifer Part One ended with both sides moving on to more successful relationships, with Affleck marrying actress Jennifer Garner. The two have a daughter, Violet, and a baby on the way.  Lopez moved on to wed longtime friend Marc Anthony and gave birth to twins Max and Emme earlier this year. 

This admission does have some application outside the celebrity zone, come to think about it.  Most of us have had love relationships where we’re just so happy we spread it far and wide, telling any and all details to everyone because we want everyone to be as happy as we are.  Unfortunately, it does two things: it sets a precedent that anyone can ask you for very intimate details at any time, which gets irritating and invasive; and the other thing is that it makes it really hard to have private moments, which every love relationship needs to help it grow and thrive.  Even though Bennifer Part One has been over for a while, heed this cautionary tale: keep some things to yourself.  Everyone deserves for a good portion of their happiness to be protected behind closed doors.

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