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Adult FriendFinder Exposed!

Radar goes behind the scenes and finds out why women use Adult FriendFinder.

If you're an internet user (hey there you!), you've probably seen ads for Adult FriendFinder—they're those banners promising that there are live women in your zip code waiting to have sex with YOU! Maybe you've wondered if these women really exist. Turns out they do.

According to RadarOnline, Adult FriendFinder is the 25th most visited site in the United States, making it one of the most popular online dating sites. But dating on AFF isn't like dating on other sites—this site is specifically for people looking for sex. Thus, when you fill out your profile, instead of writing what you like to do on a first date, "the AFF user can check off interests in '1-on-1 Sex, Bondage & Discipline, Cross-Dressing, Discreet Relationship, Erotic Chat/E-mail/Phone Fantasies, Exhibitionism & Voyeurism, Group Sex (3 or More), Miscellaneous Fetishes, Other 'Alternative' Activities, Sadism & Masochism.'"

In his investigation for Radar, writer Teddy Wayne signed up for AFF with three distinct personalities: a straight man, bisexual woman and gay guy. Most of the his findings are what you'd expect on a casual sex site: profiles include lots of photos of erect c***s, his female profile received more far responses than his male one, and there seemed to be way more men than women on the site (despite the fact that AFF says half of its members are women).

But even though men make up the majority of members, there are women on the site. So who are they and what are they doing there? Wayne talked to a few of them and found out that, like the ads say, they are attractive women who want to have sex.

One woman he spoke with is looking for a monogamous relationship but likeed the site's no BS atmosphere. Other women use the site to explore their sexuality, which makes great sense. If you have an uncommon sexual desire, say, you want to be tied up and penetrated with a spoon, AFF lets you find someone who will do just that, and the online dating aspect lets you thoroughly vet that person.

The most surprising thing, though, was that a lot of people on the site, both men and women, are looking for a long-term relationship. As Wayne concludes, Adult FriendFinder is "filled with a lot of adults who are, in the end, searching for a friend."

Can you relate?

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Lolita Single It all feels good.
Posted October 25, 2008

I think the "long term" relationship excuse is just that. We all know they want a little boot action, no strings attached.

AFF is just one evolutionary step up from standing in the woods and bellowing a mating call. Maybe they'd have more luck if they did that.

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nycgoofygal Single
Posted October 24, 2008

HEH HEH

now i know where to satisfy my spoon fetish!

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nycgoofygal Single
Posted October 24, 2008

HEH HEH

now i know where to satisfy my spoon fetish!

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pgmar Loving, thoughtful, committed, fun!
Posted October 24, 2008

Learn something new every day!

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Wuzzle Starting Over ready to give up
Posted October 24, 2008

I also find it surprising that most of the people on this site are looking for a long term relationship. Men & women are most dating sites aren't even looking for that.

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Mango Married
Posted October 24, 2008

This just shows how off base people are. Looking on AFF for a long term relationship. Explain that one to the in laws.

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