What A Man Sees When You're Naked
A guy explains how men check women out.
Women in a state of undress tend to think about their "wobbly bits" as Bridget Jones called them. This probably includes one or more of the "trouble area trifecta" spots: stomach, thighs or butt.
Men, on the other hand, skip the wobbles and let their gazes go almost immediately to their favorite parts, whether a woman's clothed or naked. Truth Merchants' "Ask A Guy" contributor tells us if a man's into the booty, he'll probably start checking out a woman at her feet and work his way up. If the chest's more his thing, he might look you in the eyes before focusing on the breasts.
Whether he's a toe-to-head or head-to-toe kind of guy, what's certain is that he's taking mental snapshots to revisit at a later date. As "Preston Swagger" writes:
"The mental picture we take of you naked is stored in the long term memory bank and can be called upon for daydreams for up to years afterward. In fact, the only thing stored in this area of our brain is mental pictures of you naked and mental pictures of us while doing the hibbity-dibbity. There’s no room in this area of the brain for anything else like your birthday or favorite food or favorite flower. Sorry…the system just wasn’t wired that way. You should direct questions about this to the manufacturer."
In this way, men are visual optimists: they naturally skip over the less-than-perfect parts to see nothing but the best.
Discussion
I believe that men see the parts they want to see. As a woman in my mid-40's, I exude the confidence and sensuality......... I may not be as thin or beautiful as I was 10 years ago, but I still feel sexy, confident and assured. I sometimes am surprised at the attention received from young, hot and confident men! Its all in the attitude. I dress nice, hip, not slutty and I truly believe that attitude is the key!
I met my man online recently, we emailed a few times, spoke on the phone a few times, met in person and then the party started.... he fell in love with me first, I didn't believe him when he said it, he told me I was beautiful naked, I couldn't believe that either, but I thought he was gorgeous from the first time I saw his photos. Thank goodness he was persistent, we're the best match for each other physically, spiritually and as friends. Ladies, if he says you're beautiful, accept it.... everyone is nervous about being naked in the light, or even in the dark, but as you get to know each other physically the nervousness is replaced with joy, and we all need joy in life.
Everyone is hitting on the topical part of this issue. What I have noticed about relationships is that if you don't treat each other with respect, honesty and nurturing...it won't matter what your bits do! Maybe before you get to know that person it's fun. We all need guidance in relationhips. How many of us get that groing up? I know I didn't. They key fundamental to having a good relationship is to look at our pasts. What were we taught? What type of relationships did our parents have? Taking all of the negative parts out of that and starting over again. You ladies have an intuition to be reckoned with. You can feel it when a man is being sincere. If you are honest and open to your guy- we are speaking about decent guys- it is likely that your relationship will endure. He has to be open and honest too. If he says your body is beautiful...he means it! Otherwise he wouldn't put the effort into saying it. Don't ask him if your body is beautiful, let him tell you. Consume the compliments. Don't take them away from him or yourself. I have so much say but if I say anymore I will be late for class.
IF YOU ' LOOK GOOD, YOU'LL FEEL GOOD '
as long as your body, mind , soul and spirit is connected between eachother, you'll be BEAUTIFIL ANYWHERE.
And always have LOVE and RESPECT for eachother.
Boy this sure got me to stop and read!My boyfriend and I just had this talk yesterday!I says he thinks I am sexy and I dont see it at all!Was told I hurt him when I dont believe him!So now he said he would not tell me that anymore!So lady's watch what you say,they may take you at your word and then you wont be happy with that ether !Sure wish I had his rose colored glasses!LOL
we desire their bodies as much as they desire ours. We may be opposite sexes, but both are human with feelings. it shows that u love that person u are with, coz u cant be naked with the one u dont love.
yeah well i was with a guy for a while and we were both married but seperated and he told me all the time about how beautiful i was gorgous sexy cute fine and everything else and apparently it didnt mean s**t cuz he decided out of the blue to insist i go spend 4th of july weekend with him so i was going then he decides he needed time alone and i havent heard from him since hell he even used to tell me how good it felt to be inside me cuz hes never been with someone so tight so yeah i think is all line of bull shitt to get wat u want until u get tired of it r meet someone else r watever but my opion is that when ur naked all they see is wats in it for them
may be u r right dear but only in some cases
becoz that is not all u see in ur female partner
there is lot to think bout
i remember so many good things which i did with my ex-partner
i remember all good and bad times together
and seriously speaking physical appearance doesn't matter a lot
when u r into true love with ur partner her/his body is like a sacred body for u
and thats doesn't mean that it is for only one thing
and i really mean it
and apart from my feelings about this i wanna say that
if we see in it wht we want
then u also see wht exactly u people want from our body. we all are sailing in same boat dear
with regards
Cpt.Nexus
Kissing freak, this all depends on the person, in your case, the man. He was a jerk and is in need of some therapy for himself. He's all in it for himself, and then, maybe, he just needs to mature and grow up. I get so tickled when I meet men who were once like the one you described and they have outgrown the type of attitude you described. They are like puppies then, and you can buy them for a dime. It is so cute when men grow up. I love it when they mature, but until they do, they are only headaches, all of them. Same for women. I am not gay and never practiced it but I do know lots of women who are so very imature and all I say for the men that meet them, is that you don't know what you're in for. Women can be something terrible before they mature as well. So, it all depends on the man and where he is in life. You deserve better and I hope and pray it comes your way.
I think that's definitely true. I certainly focus on the more desirable areas of her body. Why would you want to pick her apart? The "mental image" statement is so poignant because I can remember some girls naked image more than I can remember how it felt to have dinner with them, or even talk to them. This is not to say I didn't appreciate all that, but it seems the male reality is to retain certain things more than others.
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WHAT A MAN REALLY SEE WHEN YOUR NAKED IS GOOD POTENTIAL FOR SEX THAT'S IT. HE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR WOBBLY BITS THAT'S WHAT THE DARK IS FOR. MEN ARE NOT THAT COMPLICATED IT'S REALLY SCARREY HOW EASY THEY ARE ALL IT TAKES IS A GOOD CHACE AT SEX AND YOU OWN THEM.
As someone who dates women, I see them. Just them. They're perfectly them. My girlfriend wouldn't be herself without her wobbly tummy and stretch marks. They're hers, and because they are hers I love them too.
There is nothing that gives a woman more self-confidence than a man she is about to do something sexual with who turns around, sees her naked, and has his pupils dilate, his jaw drop, and who blurts out, "Goddess!" entirely involuntarily. (And then he blushed all over, which was also really charming.) And I'm no barbie doll. It's about who you are, and whether or not you carry that not only in your clothes but in your skin.
I hear ya on that one. I'm very self concious about my stomach, and wont let anyone go near it, I'm embarrassed about it. My ex boyfriend (the only one I've remained friends with....) thought it was my best feature - not for any negative reason, but becuase it made me vulnerable and made him want to protect me. It boosted my confidence no end, because he loved the bits I hated, it made me realise that I can too love my body. (I've since lost a stone and a half.... uh... 20 lbs I think, I still have the rotund belly but its a part of me, take it or leave it.
(p.s, my ex and I broke up because we couldn't handle a long distance relationship.... he said recently that if he lived nearer we'd get back together in a heart beat. :) )
"As someone who dates women, I see them. Just them. They're perfectly them. My girlfriend wouldn't be herself without her wobbly tummy and stretch marks. They're hers, and because they are hers I love them too."
That's f*****g beautiful. That's EXACTLY how I feel!!!
My new boyfriend says he was "freakin nuts" about me the first time he say me and hasn't stoped saying it yet. Men have a different way of seeing women, ladies, girls, whatever your age. They will see you as yourself first, confident, sure of yourself, then they see the way you carry yourself, does she really appreciate herself and you will show this with a smile for him. If you dress slutty, he will think you may a little loose, if you dress like a lady, he may think here's a real lady. She wants to impress me as a lady. Outer appearance is more than window dressing and shows you want to impress him in the right way. If you want to be treated like a lady, you've got to act and dress like a lady too. THINK ABOUT IT ladies, I am stout built and I get treated like a lady, cause I dress and act like a lady. So, think about what image you are putting out there for him. Most guys do like the idea of seeing a lady, then you can surprise him later. JUST THINK ABOUT IT FIRST.
Girl really listen to this one. When I am attracted to a girl and get to see her naked I never think to myself oh it is wasn't for this flaw or that she would be perfect I like most men think "Naked Woman GOOD!" And girls have some self-confidence in yourself guys will like you just the way you are. Also I have to say after reading some of the male bashing posts that girls you need to be honest ya'll are just as likely to check a guy out like a peice of meat as guys are to girls you may not want to admit it or call it that but every single female friend I have does it so don't lie :)
Bigfoot, that is so true. I have found myself looking at a guys and saying that I wouldn't date them because of certian flaws. I admit it...so, it's something that lots of people have to overcome. I don't want to be judged according to my body so I must not judge others according to theirs.
Girls: don't doubt yourself. If you've gotten to the point that your going to be naked in front of a guy, then he WANTS to see you naked! So don't doubt yourself, your looks, or your abilities! The more you remind yourself that "hey he wants this" the better the sex will be.
Guys AND girls: We ALL see the wobbly, jiggly, hairy (or lack thereof) parts. I remember a time with an ex when i looked at his giant hairy belly, and all of a sudden got a rediculously cheesey smile because I realized that I even liked that! The point is, when you really like someone, you don't like them for their tan, or their toned muscles, or perfectly manicured body; you like that person for everything that they are. including flub.
To the general; Every perfection of every nomeclature are inbuilt, but i want to believe that your glimps look on lady or women will ravish you by the altitude in your (men's) mind. men see different thing at the look on women, but the most important thing is to see and concentrate to the good part ,mind you., the good part should firstly comes from within. women want to be looked upon seductively when their naked before their men, your look "oh ye" men is the answer to fantastic and intimate love making.
to women; the way you compose your self matter most either you re averagely beautiful or urgly your body language will give man an irresistible magnetize attractive moment that will end up without reservation. You might be might be like Anjelina Jolie, one of the most clasical and beautiful women in the world and not be attracted to you man when u re naked bcs your undressed outcome suffocate the langauge. "then what is't to win man's heart or love when naked? if am permitted to relate this to you let me get responds toward this.
Men; never try to get reed of anything when women got naked before you than to appreciate them ( to Husband and wife) all ladies are wonderfully beautiful and indeed sexy.
"What men see, when your naked"? I'm sure each individual man has his own personal taste as to what he prefers to visualize while viewing a naked woman. But I feel it isn't just standing naked in front of a man that excites him. I think, men like it if you are confident in yourself, no matter what your physical appearance is and most importantly a man wants to feel you WANT him. That your just as excited to be with him, have him, and look at him naked as he is you. Ladies, it isn't always about US. Men want to know and I think need to know we desire their bodies as much as they desire ours. We may be opposite sexes, but both are human with feelings. Life is way to short to be worried about OUR naked appearance. It's how you feel about yourself, standing totally naked in front of someone you desire. If he is in to you, and I mean in to you, he doesn't care about any flaw you may think you have. He is looking at the entire picture. And what I mean by that is, throughout your day together if you NAG, have a "Honey Do" list a MILE long, expect him to take the garbage out immediately when you ask, believe me, that very same night while your standing naked in front of him, even if your 36" 24" 36" you are NOT going to look so beautiful in his eyes. You show a man that you appreciate him, DON'T NAG, and for once just take the darn garbage out yourself....you may look much more appealing with or without clothes on. And in the defense of woman, I say to the men equal appreciation will get your fantasies fulfilled. You tell the woman in your life that she is beautiful, especially when she least expects you to say it, show her how much you appreciate every thing she does throughout her day, and you'll have a woman who can't wait to get naked with you. I may sound a little sarcastic, but the jest of my point is, MAN or WOMAN if we appreciate each other, acknowledge to each other how we feel by communicating affectionately throughout our days together, THEN when we look at each other naked we will see the person we want to make feel good, feel loved by us. Men will see the entire beauty in you and vise versa.
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YOU KNOW IT TOOK ME ALONG TIME 2 REALIZE THAT IT WAS NOT WHAT SOMEONE ELSE THOUGHT OF ME BUT WHAT I THOUGHT OF ME THAT MATTERED. PUT SIMPLY: ALOT OF PEOPLE JUDGE OTHERS BY THE WAY THEY LOOK, DRESS, TALK, OR HOW THEY MEASURE UP SEXUALLY. TO ME IF YOU SIT BACK AND RECOGNIZE ALL THE FLAWS IN PEOPLE YOU GON' MESS AROUND AND MISS THE ONE YOU SUPPOSED TO BE WITH. SOMEONE WITH A FEW EXTRA POUNDS, OR SKINNIER THAN MOST NEED NOT FRET BECAUSE THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO LOVES YOU BABY! A FLAW IS NOTHING MORE THAN A UNIQUE IDENTIFYING MARK. LADIES LOVE YOURSELF AND HE WILL LOVE YOU 2. NAKED OR CLOTHED BE CONFIDENT IN WHO YOU ARE AND THE REST WILL FOLLOW. IF YOU HAVE A FEW EXTRA POUNDS HELL, THEN ALL THE MORE TO LOV E.
What A Man Sees When You're Naked...by Genevieve Lill
Well Ms. Genevieve,
I have great respect for writers. Writers can really help us look at things in a different way. Here's my personal view...
My girlfriend looks wise is super hot, beautiful, and sexy. She is totally into me. Because of her negative attitude and the way she scares off even her friends totally turns me off.
FOR ME TO IMAGINE HER NAKED...I SEE BROWN DUNG..
Negative women
ignorant know it all types just bore me.
Most women today only know popular culture. It's okay to be dumb and not know about world history, art, literature if your HOT!
I feel sorry for her because her parents were dumb and ignorant.
The apple falling from the tree story.
SO I CAN'T RELATE!
After 10+ years I'll take an ugly girl from a good educated family.
Lyz: I agree. I think the man doth protest too much. "After 10+ years"?! Wow! Is he really saying that he's been with someone he sees as a dullard who he has little respect for for 10+ years? Maybe that is a mistake in the post because it would only take a couple of weeks or days - even - for me to move on from someone like who this man described.
It is interesting that he's only with her - by the tone of the comment - because she is "so into him." Looks like someone needs to work on his self-esteem.
I was widowed at age 60 and then a man came into my life at age 64. I went to my regular gyn just prior to becoming intimate with him. I told her I was VERY concerned about my appearance and what he would think one he saw me naked. She smiled and said that men on look at the parts they're REALLY interested in and don't see the bits you stress out over. Know what? A year later and he still doesn't seem and thinks I'm sexy as hell. I even got over my fear of letting him put his hand on my abdomen while we sleep.
men see it all but when in love they don't care about imperfections they love everything about and as men we worry about things like our size or if we were good but just like a woman might think that would not matter my gf has told me that her ex was 8 inches i'm only 51/2 yet that does not matter to her and her imperfections do not matter to me i love her just the same yes men pay attention to everything about you but if the love you it should not matter, and if a man says you're hot he's looking at your body,if he says you're cute he's looking at your face,but most importantly if he says you're beautiful he's looking at your heart
So what does he mean when he says you're "pretty"? My bf uses that word to describe me on occasion, usually he's referring to smile when he says it.
Antonio2440 ,
I agree with what you said, " and if a man says you're hot he's looking at your body,if he says you're cute he's looking at your face,but most importantly if he says you're beautiful he's looking at your heart". Because the man in my life tells me I'm beautiful all the time, at the most unexpected moments. And I've had complete stangers, tell me I'm HOT and/or CUTE.
I'll take beautiful any day.
I don't think it is all true, sure guys notice the wobbley bits but we also see the inperfections, but when you are with a woman you love those imperfections don't matter to us. A womans body is something to cherrish and admire to include all its imperfections. Every man has different things he likes about a women, some like breasts, some like butts but women have to remember that those are not the only things that attracts us to them and what may look good to one man may not look good to another man. Women need to stop worrying about what a man likes because no matter how you are built and what imperfections you may have there is always a man out there that likes it.
I absolutely LOVE your "men r disturbing" caption! Amen to that... I hear tell they're human beings as well... sometimes I find myself believing it... lol
I had to reply after seeing the "Just have great SEX!" The sheer bluntness, not to mention the excitement awarded to the word SEX!
not every guy is 100% turn on when ur naked, some are more turn on when u are in a sexy under wear. one guy stated the reason y he is more turn on when he sees a female in her under wear, 'because he cant wait to take them off.' some say her body tells the secrete that she holds inside.
trust me some times i find it annoying and disgusting every where i turn its a guy calling, sometimes i wish i could walk free and hear no one calling. and the only thing they are lookin at is ur breast n how buff u are in ur jeans. man will always be man (
you women are so nitty bitty about every little thing, every second, every move, reaction, etc. Its like you dont appreciate the fact guys love women that all women are beautiful in so many different ways. Guys will find something that draws them to you its a step by step thing its called evaluating
You are brilliant! Men evaluate... I really should give y'all more credit! Thanks... faith in man slightly restored...
Brought up in the 40's and 50's and now a senior citizen, I have never been happier that I am no longer interested in men as sexual partners, whether men find me attractive - is my behind small enough, my breasts big enough, my face pretty enough, my intelligence level too high for a man to cope with, when a man will ask me out, when I will meet that 'special one' , will he call me back, why didn't he call and the list goes on ad nauseum.
I missed nothing in my younger years ... enjoyed some of it ... I am finally free from the sometime burden of the desire to nest and the longing for sexual bonding.
Menopause does have its benefits. Free at last.
No longing for sexual bonding? I'm 22... I don't feel the desire to nest particularly... because sexual bonding must come first. But it's such a fundamental human desire, every bit as much (greater even!) than carnal lust. In some situations...
hibbity dippity ? new one LOL
Basic thing is to love yourself just the way you are.
no harm in changing or improving what u dont like about yourself if it makes you feel better.
Life is short enjoy it and worry less. so you dont miss out on the best part of it.
Is love really blind? Maybe
i agree/believe that A man who truly loves U will not judge you or rate you but will appreciate your natural beauty inside and out and LOVE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!
Sorry, Wrong. The PC doctrine is dying. Men have their types that for some reason turn them on sexually. If you are not the type he won't be interested except when he is needy. Everyone is different;with different ideals, Love is an emotion that is also divided by values.
All I know that if you are gonna worry about how you lookin' nekkid then you're probablly missing out on enjoying the hibbity-dibbity.
i have always wished i could see myself a way that a man sees me. one day. sigh.
LOVE is BLIND is True in a special way.
When I meet a partner she is not naked so I fall in love with her inner beauty. I appreciate a nice body like anyone else, but I can honestly say that if I am in love what my lover looks like naked is secondary. What I feel in my other senses - touch, smell, taste, hear and what I feel in my heart are just as arousing to me as sight.
Visually, I am turned on and initially attracted by a sensual smile and gorgeous eyes.Gazing into my lover's eyes while making love (or hibbity dippity or whatever the term was U used LOL- what's wit dat anyways?) and sharing the passionate gaze as her eyes roll back into her head is more arousing than worrying about any potential wobbly naughty bits!!
Sometimes it is your bodies slight imperfections that are unique to you are appealing to me. So ladies stop worrying and stop judging yourself in the mirror. A man who truly loves U will not judge you or rate you but will appreciate your natural beauty inside and out and LOVE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!
By the way I do have 20/20 vision- but my other senses are 20/20 too!!!!!
Ladies, listen to Shameika . . . when youre naked in front of us we cant look at you enough. You're body is SOOO beautiful !! So soft and wonderful. Be proud of how you look naked. Its magic to us.
"it's hard to imagine guys not seeing what we see", but that is how it is. every person uses mirrors to worry about their own imperfections, to fret about those details that i (as a typical male) would not see (or if i do, not worry about). we all need to "be easy when you are naked and embrace your flaws". it's the small imperfections in life that make it beautiful. some flaws are good to see and remember, like when you discover cut marks. i have a tactile memory, so i remember a lot about touch & heat.
Props to Seaman for giving an honest answer.
A woman's confidence level always has a major affect on how attractive she is, which of course can be a positive or negative influence on her flaws. I usually just see the flaws as part of the package (lord knows I ain't perfect, but I'm fun in the sack) and they get lost in the admiration of everything about this woman who has graced me with some roll-in-the-hay time.
I guess the only time it gets difficult, for me, to get past a flaw is when she just won't let it go and keeps on believing that the flaw somehow detracts from my attraction to her. I've dated women with scars from open heart surgery to correct irregular heart beats and some other invasive surgeries, so while the scar may stand out initially I tend to enjoy it eventually. Aside from it adding character, its also something to be thankful for.
Without that scar, she probably wouldn't be here.
However, if she just can't let that go and revel in naked time with me without wearing a t-shirt it does kill the moment.
i've heard this before. On either the discovery or one of those science channels, they hooked up sensors to the brain and focus on the male and some sensor to the brain signal almost a partial loss of sight and they came to the notion that men are so aroused that they don't really see our flaws, so ladies be easy when you are naked and embrace your flaws.
so he starts at your feet and then checks out your ass? if i were a guy i'd go straight for the good parts.
This is nice and all, but does anyone else think that P Swag might be a chubby chaser? Maybe he'll just take what he can get.
the dreaded wobbly bits. it's hard to imagine guys not seeing what we see. i do know that before i got engaged i was terrified of having sex with the lights on, but ever since getting the ring i've been much more comfortable with him seeing the light, as it were. why do you think that is? makes me feel... well, it just doesn't feel right. but it is comforting.
