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What A Man Sees When You're Naked

A guy explains how men check women out.

Women in a state of undress tend to think about their "wobbly bits" as Bridget Jones called them. This probably includes one or more of the "trouble area trifecta" spots: stomach, thighs or butt.

Men, on the other hand, skip the wobbles and let their gazes go almost immediately to their favorite parts, whether a woman's clothed or naked. Truth Merchants' "Ask A Guy" contributor tells us if a man's into the booty, he'll probably start checking out a woman at her feet and work his way up. If the chest's more his thing, he might look you in the eyes before focusing on the breasts.

Whether he's a toe-to-head or head-to-toe kind of guy, what's certain is that he's taking mental snapshots to revisit at a later date. As "Preston Swagger" writes:

"The mental picture we take of you naked is stored in the long term memory bank and can be called upon for daydreams for up to years afterward. In fact, the only thing stored in this area of our brain is mental pictures of you naked and mental pictures of us while doing the hibbity-dibbity. There’s no room in this area of the brain for anything else like your birthday or favorite food or favorite flower. Sorry…the system just wasn’t wired that way. You should direct questions about this to the manufacturer."

In this way, men are visual optimists: they naturally skip over the less-than-perfect parts to see nothing but the best.

Can you relate?

Discussion

shelle Taken men r disturbing
Posted April 21, 2009

That is good to hear, and so true anyway. You need to love yourself and he will to. I'm sure his body isn't perfect either. Just have great SEX!

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sexykay21@yahoo.com Taken keeping him close
Posted April 10, 2009

not every guy is 100% turn on when ur naked, some are more turn on when u are in a sexy under wear. one guy stated the reason y he is more turn on when he sees a female in her under wear, 'because he cant wait to take them off.' some say her body tells the secrete that she holds inside.

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sexykay21@yahoo.com Taken keeping him close
Posted April 10, 2009

trust me some times i find it annoying and disgusting every where i turn its a guy calling, sometimes i wish i could walk free and hear no one calling. and the only thing they are lookin at is ur breast n how buff u are in ur jeans. man will always be man (

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Rio Single
Posted April 8, 2009

you women are so nitty bitty about every little thing, every second, every move, reaction, etc. Its like you dont appreciate the fact guys love women that all women are beautiful in so many different ways. Guys will find something that draws them to you its a step by step thing its called evaluating

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Sexy Sagittarius Taken It is the best
Posted March 18, 2009

That's good to know that they only look at the parts they like!!

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Lyz Married nerd married nerd
Posted March 19, 2009

Amen!

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Posted March 13, 2009
smart talk comment

Brought up in the 40's and 50's and now a senior citizen, I have never been happier that I am no longer interested in men as sexual partners, whether men find me attractive - is my behind small enough, my breasts big enough, my face pretty enough, my intelligence level too high for a man to cope with, when a man will ask me out, when I will meet that 'special one' , will he call me back, why didn't he call and the list goes on ad nauseum.

I missed nothing in my younger years ... enjoyed some of it ... I am finally free from the sometime burden of the desire to nest and the longing for sexual bonding.

Menopause does have its benefits. Free at last.

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benbree Married You are only human
Posted February 25, 2009

I like the look of confidence on any woman!

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nessajise Single
Posted February 19, 2009

hibbity dippity ? new one LOL
Basic thing is to love yourself just the way you are.
no harm in changing or improving what u dont like about yourself if it makes you feel better.
Life is short enjoy it and worry less. so you dont miss out on the best part of it.
Is love really blind? Maybe
i agree/believe that A man who truly loves U will not judge you or rate you but will appreciate your natural beauty inside and out and LOVE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!

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Vasha Starting Over :( ????????????????
Posted March 20, 2009

Sorry, Wrong. The PC doctrine is dying. Men have their types that for some reason turn them on sexually. If you are not the type he won't be interested except when he is needy. Everyone is different;with different ideals, Love is an emotion that is also divided by values.

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SeductionDiva Starting Over
Posted February 2, 2009

All I know that if you are gonna worry about how you lookin' nekkid then you're probablly missing out on enjoying the hibbity-dibbity.

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Posted February 1, 2009

i have always wished i could see myself a way that a man sees me. one day. sigh.

www.provocativeremarks.com

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sexy0021 Single LOYAL-NaUgHtY -NiCe- Endurance
Posted January 25, 2009

LOVE is BLIND is True in a special way.
When I meet a partner she is not naked so I fall in love with her inner beauty. I appreciate a nice body like anyone else, but I can honestly say that if I am in love what my lover looks like naked is secondary. What I feel in my other senses - touch, smell, taste, hear and what I feel in my heart are just as arousing to me as sight.
Visually, I am turned on and initially attracted by a sensual smile and gorgeous eyes.Gazing into my lover's eyes while making love (or hibbity dippity or whatever the term was U used LOL- what's wit dat anyways?) and sharing the passionate gaze as her eyes roll back into her head is more arousing than worrying about any potential wobbly naughty bits!!
Sometimes it is your bodies slight imperfections that are unique to you are appealing to me. So ladies stop worrying and stop judging yourself in the mirror. A man who truly loves U will not judge you or rate you but will appreciate your natural beauty inside and out and LOVE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!
By the way I do have 20/20 vision- but my other senses are 20/20 too!!!!!

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been uesed for my money Married Be honest with yourself
Posted January 13, 2009

Ladies, listen to Shameika . . . when youre naked in front of us we cant look at you enough. You're body is SOOO beautiful !! So soft and wonderful. Be proud of how you look naked. Its magic to us.

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andrew Single
Posted December 20, 2008
smart talk comment

"it's hard to imagine guys not seeing what we see", but that is how it is. every person uses mirrors to worry about their own imperfections, to fret about those details that i (as a typical male) would not see (or if i do, not worry about). we all need to "be easy when you are naked and embrace your flaws". it's the small imperfections in life that make it beautiful. some flaws are good to see and remember, like when you discover cut marks. i have a tactile memory, so i remember a lot about touch & heat.

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Seaman Single
Posted November 12, 2008

Not to be the jerk whisleblower. but I see the flaws sometimes.

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genevieve Single
Posted November 14, 2008

Thanks for being honest, Seaman.
Tell us more: do they turn you off? Does the woman's confidence level affect how you react to flaws?

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Posted October 30, 2008
smart talk comment

i've heard this before. On either the discovery or one of those science channels, they hooked up sensors to the brain and focus on the male and some sensor to the brain signal almost a partial loss of sight and they came to the notion that men are so aroused that they don't really see our flaws, so ladies be easy when you are naked and embrace your flaws.

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Lolita Single It all feels good.
Posted October 25, 2008

I think this guy is just trying to justify his own objectification of woman. I don't think all men do this.

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Wuzzle Starting Over ready to give up
Posted October 24, 2008

i can't say i'm surprised. i've never met a guy that didn't think women were put on this earth just for their pleasure.

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savannah Engaged We'll get there eventually.
Posted October 25, 2008

I think guys are just like this. They can't help it.

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Posted October 24, 2008

It's a tad disappointing to hear that men stare you down, bit by bit. To quote the common cliche: "I'm not a feminist, but" this seems a little like objectification.. what's next?!

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Chacha Taken
Posted October 24, 2008

That's comforting to know he doesn't remember the parts that wiggle. But that's creepy about remembering you for later daydreams...

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nycgoofygal Single
Posted October 24, 2008

so he starts at your feet and then checks out your ass? if i were a guy i'd go straight for the good parts.

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jessicahabit Taken
Posted October 24, 2008

This is nice and all, but does anyone else think that P Swag might be a chubby chaser? Maybe he'll just take what he can get.

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Maureen Married
Posted October 24, 2008

I don't think so. If he's not going to remember your birthday or favorite flower, at least he's not going to remember your wobbly bits, either. What makes you think he's a chubby chaser?

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esther 31 Engaged In love and engaged.
Posted October 23, 2008

the dreaded wobbly bits. it's hard to imagine guys not seeing what we see. i do know that before i got engaged i was terrified of having sex with the lights on, but ever since getting the ring i've been much more comfortable with him seeing the light, as it were. why do you think that is? makes me feel... well, it just doesn't feel right. but it is comforting.

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