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How Do You Know When You Are Over Him?

How do you know if you are over your last relationship? How often can you think about your ex and still be "over it"?

Posted: Tue, 10/21/2008 - 9:06pm

I THINK YOU KNOW ITS OVER WHEN YOU CAN TALK ABOUT HIM/HER WITHOUT CRYING.

Posted: Fri, 01/16/2009 - 10:14pm

I am in a committed relationship and I still think about this guy I had a crush on in college. I was with someone when I met him and he was with someone when I broke up, but I know he liked me. He came on to me one night and I turned him down because I was friends with his GF. But I still think about him and how my life could be so different, if I had only gone with what I wanted, not with what I was supposed to.

Posted: Fri, 11/14/2008 - 9:32pm

If you are thinking like that it sounds like you are not ready to commit.

Posted: Sat, 11/15/2008 - 12:19pm

Not necessarily. I think its normal to have those thoughts when you are in a realtionship. Its just when they consume you that they become a problem. I still wonder about the GF I had in 3rd grade. She picked her nose.

Posted: Sun, 11/16/2008 - 10:41pm

When the thought of him being with someone else doesn't turn your stomach sour.

Posted: Fri, 11/14/2008 - 11:04am

If you date someone they are going to play a role in your life and defining your experiences. it seems it would be normal to think about them from time to time. but a relationship ending is natural, just grieve it and move on.

Posted: Wed, 11/12/2008 - 9:15pm

If only it were that easy..."just grieve it and move on" is a little flippant. what does grieve mean?

Posted: Wed, 11/12/2008 - 11:01pm

Its not flippant, it just means accept it as a loss and move on. Like when someone dies, it takes time to reorient your life around that loss. But it is a loss, they won't come back. When you live thinking they will come back that is when you need a reality check.

Posted: Thu, 11/13/2008 - 9:45pm

The attraction never leaves. You have to remove everything that he gave you and everything that reminds you of him from your home. For more in depth details on how to get over your ex, this will help - http://loveguru.net/embraceabreakup.html

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Posted: Sat, 11/08/2008 - 7:08pm

Eh you're just promoting your site. You get over someone. You just have to get out of your house and not mope around.

Posted: Wed, 11/12/2008 - 6:36pm

i am struggling with this right now. i broke up with my boyfriend of over two years. i can't say he ever treated me well (one of the many reasons we finally broke up), but i always feel like if he called me tomorrow i'd go running back. it's been 6 months since we broke up and i really wonder if i will ever feel differently.

Posted: Fri, 10/31/2008 - 3:08pm

when your not thinking about him all the time and comparing everyone else to him

Posted: Mon, 10/27/2008 - 6:50pm

Do dreams count?! Why do you dream about people you don't think about anymore?!

Posted: Fri, 10/31/2008 - 4:47pm

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