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| What Counts As Cheating |
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Our idea of cheating is simple, being dishonest about another relationship. Since we have an open relationship things like flirting with others, kissing others and even having sex with others is not cheating. But hiding a relationship with someone else would be. Our rule, we ask permission first, not tell about it later. |
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I think that you've committed the act of cheating once you're physically or emotionally involved with someone other than your significant other. I know that covers a broad range, but either physically or emotionally involved is how I see things. We all fantasize...but I don't see that as cheating. We all see someone that we're like "hmm...I wonder how he'd be" - but I don't see that as cheating. Once you're talking to someone and start to like them or have a crush on them - you're emotionally involved and from that first kiss you're physically involved. Once you cross those boundaries you've cheated. |
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I have experienced the cheating thing from both ends .. thinking about being with someone other than your SO is cheating, kissing , touching, thats taking it to another level of cheating.. |
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If I found out he kissed someone I would be pissed. But I would really feel betrayed if he had sex with another woman. I would feel even more betrayed if he began to emotionally cheat on me. I know its odd but its true. |
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any cheater knows they cheat. this discussion of "what is cheating" is just semantics. cheaters claim there is a fuzzy line just to get away with it. |
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not true. It can vary by situation. It's hard to be black and white about it. |
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I don't think so. I once kissed a guy on a dare, not thinking it was cheating but my BF was so mad. He was also very jealous and it didn't work out. |
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that's a harsh line. I think its cheating when you are putting your time and resources into someone who is not your SO. An accidental kiss here or there is not cheating. |
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The blurry line: Anything that would make your SO uncomfortable to witness. The distinct line: kissing. |
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everything from kissing onward. anything physical is cheating. cyber sex would also be cheating. most of the men i've dated have looked at porn, which i understand even though i'm not info it myself. but if he were exchanging dirty messages with tami_partygirl_18 or something i'd be pretty pissed. |
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Anything you're inclined to keep secret! |
You kissed. You flirted. Sometimes you talk on the phone. Alright, you may have even had sex. But what actually counts as cheating in a relationship. Where and how do you set your boundaries?