After Sharyl Jupe divorced her husband Larry, he married Jann Blackstone-Ford. Larry and Sharyl agreed on joint custody of their children, and as a result had to interact with one another almost every day. But in the aftermath of their divorce, that meant that Lary and Sheryl were often fighting. In Sharyl and Jann's book Ex-Etiquette, Jann explains, "Although the adults thought they were keeping their animosity toward each other away from the children, Sharyl and Larry's daughter developed chronic stomach aches and my daughter began to have nightmares. That's when we realized we had to come to our senses. Good behavior after divorce, something we now call good ex-etiquette is more than just positive interaction between divorced or separated parents — it is also gracefully integrating new partners into the mix."
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"The majority of parents who are no longer together will get involved with someone else, and they will do this while attempting to raise children from a previous marriage," the woman explain. And in this kind of environment it is necessary to forge a new and civil relationship with your ex. Jann and Sheryl women coined the term "bonus parents," to remove the stigma of the word "step" and began trying to better define ex-etiquette.
In their book, Jann and Sheryl outline the ten rules of good ex-etiquette.