"I know many couples that were brought closer together by toys," says Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, sex columnist and author of the new book Pleasure: A Woman’s Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need, and Deserve.
Okay, easier said than done. You can complain about how he puts the empty carton of OJ back in the fridge, and he can whine about how your hair is always clogging the sink. But not being sexually satisfied? Where and how do you even begin that conversation?
"Take a field trip to an adult store and purchase toys," advises the author, a gynecologist and co-director of the New York Center for Women's Sexual Health at Columbia University. Once you get home — let the games begin.
Dr. Hutcherson recommends choosing a toy of the night and using it at least once a week. Not only will you both get mutual pleasure, but you'll also feel happier and closer as a couple. And who wouldn't want that?
Now, if you're thinking "I don’t need to use sex toys. My sex life is amazing!" — don't be so quick to dismiss. "Think of them as an accessory," says Hutcherson. "Using toys and games during sex just spices up the whole experience."
So whether you two have hit a dry spell, are curious, or just want to have some fun -- the solution is quite simple. Go pick up one of the book's recommended top 10 sex toys, lock the bedroom door and fall in love with each other all over again. Stat.