Worried your partner may stray? Read this article to find out why men and women are likely to cheat.
This guest article from PsychCentral was written by Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S
The issue of cheating is one of the most difficult problems a couple will ever encounter. A lot of blame and self worth is wrapped up in the issue of cheating. In fact it is incredibly important to understand the differences in both how men and women handle cheating and the reasons why they teeter off from the man or woman that they love.
Why Men Cheat
Modern American politicians don't have the market cornered on infidelity and illegitimate children.
We might think that modern politicians would shame the Founding Fathers with their infidelity, illegitimate children and poor personal decisions. Even some of the media of the 18th Century got in on the muckraking. Could Washington, Adams, Jefferson, Madison, Franklin, Hamilton and John Jay have survived in our current toxic, partisan, schadenfreude-rife climate?
Arnold Schwarzenegger is not the first man to cheat with an employee. What's behind the "nanny" appe
I have to say I was somewhat dismayed when I heard that Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver were breaking up and that the reason for their break up was Arnold’s affair with his family's housekeeper. I found myself feeling weary of hearing the same old story. It seems like every other day on the news a story surfaces about a powerful man cheating on his beautiful wife with an employee, an intern or some other type of domestic worker.
Examines some of the common reasons why individuals in relationships decide to cheat
The more I have witnessed and become acquainted with the stories of couples, both married and unmarried, the more I am convinced that cheating is both an art and a science. Let me explain. Popular culture has done a great job at magnifying the notions of a great passion and the pursuit of the forbidden. As a matter of fact, many of the familiar stories of great passion tend to be intricately dove-tailed with some aspect of the forbidden.
We may not know why men cheat but maybe we know why they keep it to themselves.
Someone or other did a survey and it, for the most part, ladies will tell their friends about affairs and dudes like to keep it to themselves. And if dudes do have to spill the beans, they aim to do so with an individual strange to them. The bottom line of the study is that 72% of women tell someone absolutely have to tell someone about their affairs whereas only 23% of men need to confess their infidelities. But why?
A journalist goes under cover on AshleyMadison.com to figure out why married men cheat.
In "The Cheaters Club," a piece for vanityfair.com, single chick, Melanie Berliet poses as an unhappily married woman on the prowl on the cheating site The Ashley Madison Agency. She analyzes three men and makes some pretty broad assumptions about monogamy.
Why do politicians and other powerful men cheat on their wives?
We've seen enough married political figures with upstanding reputations, adorable kids, and kick-ass wives—maybe even especially those— cheat. The thing we've yet to uncover, though, is why. We get the human nature, sex thing. A USA Today/Gallup poll conducted in March of this year — right after the Eliot Spitzer scandal broke — found that 54 percent of Americans know someone with an unfaithful spouse. We're no math whizzes, but it seems to reason that unless each of the 1,025 people polled was referring to the same couple, that means half of all relationships in the U.S. suffer from infidelity—and people talk about it. But, with so much at stake and so many falling before them, how can men in the public eye cheat on their wives—and expect to get away with it?
A married writer explores the urge to sleep with multiple partners.
Kind of like drinking or driving underage, part of having sex outside of a committed relationship is the thrill that comes with doing something illicit. Cue Tango's favorite therapist Esther Perel and other experts hoping to pull marriage's reputation out from under its passionless, restrictive shell through greater communication and understanding. Weiss quotes one friend who says: “Do middle-aged, married women who are no longer interested in having sex with their husbands expect them to remain faithful?" The response, according to American mores, is "yes," though this is at odds with biology.
Evolutionary biology's poster child should be the transgender man quoted in the article, who underwent a sex change after 50 years as a woman. He told Weiss that since taking testosterone supplements, he's noticed "a newfound ability to completely divorce sexuality from emotional commitments."
A look at our polygamist past and if it would work today.
A writer for the Chicago Sun-Times, Andrew Greeley, wrote a humorous take on polygamy for the rich. His premise is that A) it was kosher in the past and B) they do it any way, might as well set up boundaries. It's an idea worth considering for rich philanderers.
