I've been working with heartbroken people for over 25 years as a psychotherapist. I've listened closely as they tell me they've been abandoned again and again, can't seem to find someone, can't get a quality relationship to last. The truth is that they are experiencing invisible barriers that prevent them from finding the right love. The first step to overcoming these barriers is understanding them. Here are some of the common scenerios:

Abandon-holism: You've been hurt so many times, you've come to confuse insecurity with love. When someone comes along who is willing to commit, you don't feel the "right chemistry." … Read More

Do you believe that anything you want will be yours if you just upgrade your attitude? Do you think that you can attract money, happiness and love just by rearranging how you look at the world? Do you—like millions of people around the country—love Deepak Chopra, believe in The Secret, and think that the universe gives back to you exactly what you give it?  

If so, then we suggest you steer clear of Barbara Ehrenreich's new book, Bright-Sided: How The Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America. In it, she argues that our national obsession with positive thinking might actually … Read More

When does devotion to the one you are with become overkill? Is it really possible to be too loving?

Give advice or see what others had to say here: Can a man be too loving?

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Featuring Love and Dating Expert Dr. Diana Kirschner http://www.lovein90days.com

"Couples skaters" Archibald and Genevieve answer a question common to people in new relationships.

Question: I've been dating this guy for three months and my friends are saying I'm not seeing them enough. What's the best way to handle this?
-Susan

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So you want to try online dating, but don't want to have to answer questions like "What's the song that's running through your head most often these days?" and "Who's the celebrity you resemble most"?

Not to worry, your solution is here. It's called Gelato (http://ge.la.to/) and it allows you to put yourself out there without having to answer a single question with originality or flare.

We know what you're thinking: "It sounds great, but how will other daters know that I look like Tori Spelling or that Hall and Oates makes me swoon?" It's easy, as long as you subscribe … Read More

In honor of the 140th anniversary of Mahatma Gandhi's birth, we've culled together 4 ways to practice, in your love life, what he preached. As Indians take a national holiday to celebrate the anniversary of the politician and spiritual leader's birth, we examine several quotes for which he's best known. Turns out, they serve as good relationship advice, too.

1. "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." Maybe infidelity ruined your last relationship. Rather than seeking to avenge this wound, make a goal to never cause that pain to someone else.  Or perhaps someone you were dating never … Read More

Saturday Night Live has been cranking out sketch comedy platinum, gold and, sometimes, pewter for 34 years. The Lorne Michaels creation has launched countless entertainment careers and has provided us with plentiful water cooler talk on Monday mornings. But can these 3–5 minute comedy segments really teach us anything about love? They can… isn't that special?

1. Playing hard to get really works. Mango (Chris Kattan) may be the most desired man in the world. He knows his value and doesn't sell himself short… even for Matt Damon.

2. When in doubt, think "What would Leon Phelps do?" and go … Read More

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Our good friends Em & Lo informed us yesterday that a wedding band is the #1 male power accessory needed to lure in the ladies. The Frisky: 5 Horrifying Things You'll Learn When Moving In With A Guy

As we've said before: it doesn't just take a village to raise a child, it also takes a village to raise a couple. Our relationships don't exist in vacuums, they can be strengthened or challenged based on the friends, family and advisers we keep.