Last week I started a discussion about how long it takes to get over an ex. Answers varied, of course, depending on lots of different factors, and some people even admitted they weren't sure whether they'd ever get over an ex. While we may not be there now, most of us can remember a time when we wondered the very same thing. Fortunately, time really does heal most wounds and eventually the fog lifts and the day comes when you realize, suddenly, you're gloriously, blessedly, wonderfully, finally over him! That day doesn't come without warning, of course. There are always … Read More

Ever heard of a divorce fair? It's sort of like a job fair but for people who have ended their marriages. As you may recall, other older divorce fairs didn't start with much of a bang. The Viennese divorce fair was a total sausage fest. The London divorce fair is starting to gain some steam. But, per Reuters, the Parisians figured out how to do it right, right now. While previous shows set their laser beams on putting people together with legal and financial professionals, the Gallic version was all about getting your groove back post-split. Read More

A new study says it takes the typical person 17 months and 26 days to feel ready to move on after a divorce, which got me thinking: How long does it take to get over a regular ol' breakup (you know, one that doesn't require lawyers)? The answer, of course, is that there isn't one right answer. It took years for me to get over my first love, someone I was with only about ten months. On the other hand, it took about six weeks before I was ready to move on after I ended a four-year, live-in relationship … Read More

Dating someone new means learning about each other's quirky behaviors, emotional baggage, and the past experiences that have shaped both of your lives. But what if this involves a health or medical secret you're hesitant to talk about?

Jill*, a 33-year-old from New York City, knows that finding Mr. Right also means telling him that she has bipolar disorder. Though she takes medication to manage her condition, she still lives with residual symptoms: She has trouble sleeping for more than two hours at a time, and can't shake her cigarette habit—traits that she feels a date might question.

"It's the smoking … Read More

Bad relationships can happen to anyone. Case in point: Mary Murphy, 51, from the hit TV series, So You Think You Can Dance, who revealed to Us Weekly that she was repeatedly raped, beaten and even suffered a miscarriage during a hellish nine-year marriage in early '80s.

She tells Us Weekly her ex-husband—whose name is being withheld, but who says Murphy's claims are "flat-out lies"—raped her for the first time three months after they wed.

"We'd had another jealous fight, screaming, crashing over furniture, and he said, 'I want to have sex,'" Murphy tells Us Weekly. "I was like, 'Are you kidding … Read More

When nursing yourself through a particularly brutal breakup, it might initially feel cathartic to jump feet first into an angry well of Men Suck. Christie Brinkley Divorce Finally Over

The male species are worthless, you mutter. Screw marriage and children, I'll just wear mumus and live in a house of cats (bonus points if you chop off your hair and stop shaving!).

While we loath taking away those precious, precious moments of white-knuckled Grrrrl power, a recent article by Karen Salmansohn, "The Law of Attraction Really Begins with the Law of Subtraction" has us thinking maybe … Read More

In the world of competitive pining, it's not an exaggeration to say that I'm a legend. My journey towards greatness began in elementary school, when I nursed a secret crush on the lovely Naomi for five long years, an All Saints School record that remains unbeaten. By the time I got to high school, I was so good at longing lunchroom glances that I was named captain of the varsity unrequited love squad. And I'm sure most of you know all about my Crysman-trophy winning college career. My years as a pro have been marked by great triumphs—the candle I … Read More

He's the perfect height. He has perfect hands. You love his sister. You love his scent. How can you be with someone who doesn't know how to play the tuba? Or speak French? He is perfect and everything about him is perfect by association. The problem is he doesn't want to be with you. And now you're never going to find love again. Right? Wrong. Here is what you need to remember:

1. You're supposed to be miserable.
Unhealthy: being so depressed that you don't want to get out of bed without being unable to think of a reason for being … Read More

In a 2000 study, social psychologists Sheena Iyengar and Mark Lepper showed that when people are given the option of choosing among smaller and larger selections of jam, they show more interest in the larger assortment. But when it comes down to actually purchasing a jar, they're 10 times more likely to do so among six rather than among 24 flavors. In essence, researchers found that people are overwhelmed by too many choices. 

So what does this have to do with your love life? Just replace the word "jam" and "jar" with "man" and presto, you have the possible underlying … Read More

International travel has always had an allure for the single gal. The thrill of losing yourself in a perfectly baked pain au chocolat... The indulgent kisses of an accented man... The fortuitous Eurail cabin-turned-soul mate. We've all had that fantasy, admit it: Ever since Julie Delpy and Ethan Hawke meandered Viennese streets in Richard Linklater's Before Sunrise, you, too, have held out hope for your own slice of the intercontinental embrace.

The good news is that with airfare at an all time low, if you've got the money then now's the time to go. The other good news is that now … Read More