Sometimes, without even meaning to, other people can make you feel you're not doing enough to meet men. A relative asks about your dating status, or a friend gets engaged, and you're like, Uh-oh! I better giddyup! Luckily, that hasn't happened to me in a long while.

But take for instance this dog. My dad's neighbor's dog has a calling card. No joke. It says that Nani the dog is female, weighs 85 pounds, was born in 2004, and enjoys surfing, kayaking, eating, and sleeping. Nani is the "World's First Surfing Bernese Mountain Dog." Seriously!

For some reason, my first thought was … Read More

Sometimes dating is pure joy—basking in the thrill of meeting a potential Mr. Right can be exciting and energizing. But other times, dating is a chore. It's discouraging—after so many people you should have clicked with someone by now, right? How come your relationships don't last—or never even get started?

According to Josie Brown and Martin Brown, authors of The Complete Idiot's Guide To Finding Mr. Right and co-editorial directors for the internationally syndicated column John Gray's Mars Venus Advice, you might be sabotaging your chances of finding love without knowing it. In their book, Brown and Brown outline … Read More

Do your husband's eyes stray too much? Dr. Diana Kirschner reveals some tips to keep his attention on you.

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If you're the type to troll the gym hoping to pick yourself up a nice little He-Man, you may want to know that what you gain in muscle bulges, you may lose in generosity. 

A recent study conducted at Claremont Graduate University in California theorizes that men with the most testosterone are more selfish than those with a doughier physique. Researchers gathered volunteers and lathered half of them with testosterone-laden cream and the other half with a placebo. Testosterone Makes Chicks Think Like Dudes

Then the volunteers got into pairs and played a game where they decide how … Read More

Just like women, men can woo with their extra skills. Dudes can do things that'll make any woman weak in the knees, even out of the bedroom. So gents, if you want our attention, here are some ways you can make your spare time sexy.

1. Volunteer Fireman/Military Reserves: So noble, so sexy. Come and get us in the uniform. The Frisky: Clothes Do Not Make The Man

2. Photographer/Artist/Filmmaker: You chase beauty and us. That’s so flattering that you can get a chick naked just by saying it’s for "art."

3. Dance Machine: If … Read More

I've been working with heartbroken people for over 25 years as a psychotherapist. I've listened closely as they tell me they've been abandoned again and again, can't seem to find someone, can't get a quality relationship to last. The truth is that they are experiencing invisible barriers that prevent them from finding the right love. The first step to overcoming these barriers is understanding them. Here are some of the common scenerios:

Abandon-holism: You've been hurt so many times, you've come to confuse insecurity with love. When someone comes along who is willing to commit, you don't feel the "right chemistry." … Read More

Do you remember when you were young and had a schoolboy or schoolgirl crush? Do you remember the feeling of having butterflies in your stomach when you thought of that person? Do you recall both the excitement and anxiety that filled your heart?

Having a crush not only keeps your imagination alive, but it is good for your body. Studies prove that by having a crush, hormones are released that will make you feel sexier and help you attract members of the opposite sex. It allows doors to open and the possibilities to come to the surface.
Just recently, I announced to … Read More

Horror movies may well be the perfect date movies. They're an excellent excuse to sit close together in the dark, plus grabbing his hand during the scary parts is totally acceptable. There are no cheesy rom-com clichés to deal with, and studies have shown that scary situations promote intimacy. Here are our favorite horror movies to watch on a date. Poll: Why Do You Like Date Movies?

The Descent
What happens: A group of women go spelunking and end up navigating far more than stalactites. 
Good for: Feminists who want to be truly terrified. This Love Buzzer screamed out loud … Read More

Everyone—god love ya if you haven't—has a tale of dating gone wrong. Whether it happens on a blind date or three months into a blooming relationship, these disasters usually strike out of the blue and leave you stunned, slack-jawed and, often, downright offended. And that's exactly why they make for such good stories. Hopefully, too, they teach us a thing or two about the pursuit of love. Here's my tale.

I had known Billy* for five years through mutual friends, and at some point we started hanging out independently. I was still sailing on the friend boat when Billy indicated … Read More

One thing that I know about attractive people is that they do not care for uglies trying to get in their pantaloons. Correction: they like the attention but it really concerns them if the unattractive (or poor) person honestly thinks they have a chance to slime his/ her way into said trousers. Sure, some of them are "well adjusted" enough to give 4s, 5s and 6s a chance sans alcohol, and some of them actually date down to shine more. We call those two groups the outliers. 

The bulk of attractive people prefer to date like, and that's not a judgment. … Read More