Are you more dog-like or a cat-like in your relationships?
People who like pets usually enjoy referring to themselves as either dog people or cat people, but your preference doesn't really matter...except when it comes to your feminine allure which you can learn from a real expert, a cat.
I used to be more dog-like in my relationships with men than cat-like. I made so many dog-like mistakes and I didn't have a clue what I was doing. However, I eventually learned that to be happy in a relationship, I needed to put my inner dog aside and learn to focus on my inner cat.
So how do you know if you're being too dog-like in your relationships? Here are the qualities of the inner dog:
· Dogs are always eager to please.
· Dogs demand very little other than food and attention.
· Dogs are fiercely loyal even to their owners who abuse them.
· Dogs will follow you wherever you go, watching for your reactions and approval.
· Dogs will beg for love.
These are all wonderful qualities in a pet, but these are not the qualities you want to embrace as a woman in a love relationship.
But that was me, always trying so hard to please. I was single and I was feeling desperate and needy. I eventually realized that being dog-like was not working for me.
As luck would have it, I was cast as "the cat" in a stage play of "Animal Farm" by George Orwell. The cat was the only animal in the play with no lines. All I did on stage was saunter up to anyone who would pet me or lazily look for anything I could rub myself against. This was meant to be an exaggeration of the pleasure loving nature of a cat, but in truth, it is a large part of their essence.
At the time I had a cat named Nova and I studied her intently for my role. I could see that she had many desirable qualities that kept me at her beck and call. As they say, "No one really owns a cat, a cat owns you."
She gave me insight into a more feminine way of being with a man. It took me a long time to understand what I was doing wrong but now, years later; I embrace my inner cat with gusto.
Here are the qualities of a cat that you can use to increase your feminine allure:
· Cats are independent.
· Cats are unpredictable.
· Cats are playful.
· Cats are curious.
· Cats embody a sense of mystery.
· Cats won't always come when you call.
· Cats keep themselves well groomed.
· Cats know what they want and don't want.
And just as importantly -- cats know how to relax! They can relax so totally because they are at peace with who they are. There is nothing more feminine than a cat stretched out full length for a nap.
It's a challenge to embody these qualities if you're used to being more dog-like. One thing you can do to help you be more catlike is keep an image of a particular cat in your mind. Call on it whenever you feel you are going into that "man-pleasing dog territory."
Cats will keep you under a love spell. Whatever they want, you're happy to give it to them. They don't always seem grateful and they will keep you guessing. But at night, when a cat curls up to sleep beside you, you know that you are loved and appreciated. They make you feel like the luckiest person in the world.
That's how a man wants to feel -- that's the feminine allure of relishing your inner cat.