Are you more dog-like or a cat-like in your relationships?
People who like pets usually enjoy referring to themselves as either dog people or cat people, but your preference doesn't really matter...except when it comes to your feminine allure which you can learn from a real expert, a cat.
I used to be more dog-like in my relationships with men than cat-like. I made so many dog-like mistakes and I didn't have a clue what I was doing. However, I eventually learned that to be happy in a relationship, I needed to put my inner dog aside and learn to focus on my inner cat.
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So how do you know if you're being too dog-like in your relationships? Here are the qualities of the inner dog:
· Dogs are always eager to please.
· Dogs demand very little other than food and attention.
· Dogs are fiercely loyal even to their owners who abuse them.
· Dogs will follow you wherever you go, watching for your reactions and approval.
· Dogs will beg for love.
These are all wonderful qualities in a pet, but these are not the qualities you want to embrace as a woman in a love relationship.
But that was me, always trying so hard to please. I was single and I was feeling desperate and needy. I eventually realized that being dog-like was not working for me.
As luck would have it, I was cast as "the cat" in a stage play of "Animal Farm" by George Orwell. The cat was the only animal in the play with no lines. All I did on stage was saunter up to anyone who would pet me or lazily look for anything I could rub myself against. This was meant to be an exaggeration of the pleasure loving nature of a cat, but in truth, it is a large part of their essence.
At the time I had a cat named Nova and I studied her intently for my role. I could see that she had many desirable qualities that kept me at her beck and call. As they say, "No one really owns a cat, a cat owns you."
She gave me insight into a more feminine way of being with a man. It took me a long time to understand what I was doing wrong but now, years later; I embrace my inner cat with gusto.
Here are the qualities of a cat that you can use to increase your feminine allure:
· Cats are independent.
· Cats are unpredictable.
· Cats are playful.
· Cats are curious.
· Cats embody a sense of mystery.
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· Cats won't always come when you call.
· Cats keep themselves well groomed.