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Community Blog: Holiday Survival Guide For Singles [EXPERT]

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Community Blog: Holiday Survival Guide For Singles [EXPERT]

Cuddling in front the fireplace. New Year’s Eve kisses. Mistletoe. Looking around, it can feel like everyone has someone during the holidays EXCEPT you. Considering that this was a time of year that we counted down to as kids, it can be pretty tough when you are single. Whether it is your annoying uncle asking, "Where is your boyfriend?" at the family get-together or maybe a change of traditions from last year when you were in a relationship, the holidays can make you feel lonelier than ever. Throw in the cold weather and snow and you might as well hunker down with a cup of eggnog, your blanket and the A Christmas Story marathon on TBS. How To Handle The Holidays As A Single Mom VIDEO

What if this year you sat back and looked at the holidays a little differently? What if you realized that this is a season not only of joy and good cheer but also with tons of events to meet people and they are usually in a good mood! It is the time of year to spread love, not hide it under the blanket you are wrapped in on the couch. So lose the Bah Humbug and follow these tips for a fun and festive holiday dating season.

1. Get some holiday life support
Grab your cup of eggnog, blanket and use that down time for good! Write a list of other single friends and acquaintances that are in the same boat as you. Choose people who are friendly, positive and open to meeting new people.  Invite them over and get them on board for Operation Holidate 2009. Agree to encourage and make each other accountable for getting off your couch and getting out there.  Your support team can also help you buy that co-worker you have been crushing on a small holiday gift or be your wing person as you talk to that barista that makes you laugh every time you order your caramel macchiato.

2. Say yes!
Now that you have your support team in place, embrace all of the great parties and other events during the holiday season. Say yes to all of them. Go to each other’s work parties and family get-togethers. You never know who even your lame cousin is going to have at their holiday function and can always use the excuse that you have another holiday party to jet off too. Have each member of the team pick out one or two other community events that they have always wanted to check out and commit to it. This is also a fantastic time to have a great singles holiday party yourself. It is hard to feel lonely when you are ridiculously busy! 3 Ways To Add Happiness To Your Dating Life EXPERT

3. Spread holiday cheer
Tis the season to be jolly, so take some of your holiday cheer and spread it by volunteering. Even if you don’t have much money, you can still donate your time. Check out the United Way Holiday Wish Book for great opportunities or check in with your local schools, hospital, church or youth center. There are so many places that could use your help during the holidays and what a great way to meet new people! Fun And Free: Volunteer Date

4. Give a special gift to your favorite person…yourself

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