4 Dos & Don'ts When Another Woman Hits On Your Guy

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4 Dos & Don'ts When Another Woman Hits On Your Guy
Don't let jealousy take over! Stay in control with these four tips.

"Can you believe she just did that?!"

Marcy is outraged. She and her boyfriend are out dancing with a group of friends. She notices another woman checking out her guy — even though he's obviously with Marcy. At one point, the woman grabs Marcy's boyfriend and starts dancing with him. He is embarrassed but plays along and dances for a few minutes with her. 

Later, Marcy is mad at her boyfriend for continuing to dance with the other woman. She feels like he could have pushed her away or made a clearer statement that he's in a relationship. The rest of the evening is ruined. Marcy is continuously on the lookout for the woman who was so forward with her boyfriend. She worries that there's more going on than she knows ...

When it seems like another woman is flirting with or coming on to your man, things can get ugly and fast. Your jealousy gets triggered, and you begin to question what you think you know about your partner and your relationship. Is he really the victim of unwanted advances or is something else happening? 

It doesn't matter if you and your partner are at a bar, party, office event, out dancing or walking through your neighborhood. The two of you are enjoying one another's company when — out of nowhere — another woman barges in. She runs up and hugs your guy or she rubs his shoulders and strokes his arm as she talks to him (and ignores you). Maybe she isn't physically there, but has been texting him throughout the evening.

Your glares and "ahem's" don't seem to be getting through, and you feel jealous. It's starting to seem that this other woman is trying to break you and your partner up!

Let's be clear here. It's not just other women who hit on men already in committed relationships. This opposite happens too. If you're a heterosexual man in a monogamous relationship, it's just as likely that another guy might try to pick up your woman. How you respond to someone else hitting on your partner can mean the difference between renewed trust and connection or more tension and distance in your relationship. Here are four do's and don'ts to remember. Keep reading ...

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