5 Tips For Replacing Your Ex ... Kelly Ripa Style

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5 Tips For Replacing Your Ex ... Kelly Ripa Style [EXPERT]
Like your ex, Regis Philbin was one of a kind ... but so is Michael Strahan.

Ex-NFL star, Michael Strahan, will be Kelly Ripa's new Regis Philbin. Well, sort of.

After Regis retired from the Live! with Regis and Kelly daytime talk show last year, viewers were treated to months of guest co-hosts. They ranged from comedians, actors and musicians to professional athletes and more. It was a search to find a co-host who had the right kind of chemistry with Kelly Ripa and the right kind of personality for the show.

 

After a process of very public auditions, the show's producers have finally decided that Strahan was the person for the job. While it's clear that show business legend Regis Philbin is irreplacable, a co-host was needed. Strahan may not be able to replace Philbin, but alongside Ripa, he can create a different kind of energy and success for the syndicated show.

In much the same way, you can't literally replace your ex. Whether you love or hate your ex, there is nobody else like him or her. You won't have the exact same relationship with a new person that you had with your ex — though there may be similarities or patterns that crop up. How To Make The First Move

At the same time, if you are starting over and intending to attract a new partner, you kind of are replacing your ex. You know there can't be another like him or her (thankfully or regrettably), but you want to find someone else to share your life with; you want someone else to "sit across from you," just as has happened with the Live! show.

Here are 5 lessons from Kelly Ripa's process of finding a new co-host that can be applied to "replacing" your ex:

1. Don't go for his clone. Michael Strahan is very different from Regis Philbin — he's a tall, African-American, ex-NFL football player who is 40 years old. Kelly Ripa and the Live! show didn't try to find someone who looked or acted like Regis. They seem to have intentionally been searching for someone to bring his (or her) own unique element to the mix. They even changed the set to reflect this new chapter for the show.

Similarly, it's never wise to seek out a new partner who reminds you of — or even looks like — your ex. There's too much danger of carrying over expectations that were possibly true of your ex, but are most likely not true of this new person.

Stay open to people who may seem very different from your ex, possibly even those you can't really picture yourself with. Leave your expectations behind and give yourself the opportunity to really get to know this new person. You will then be able to tell if he or she is a match for what you want.

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