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Find Out Who You Should Marry Based On Your PRIMARY Brain Quadrant

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You are engaged in the dating process, seeking your Perfect Life Partner. You are more than ready to meet your ideal partner, the one person you've dreamed of for too long. You were raised on Cinderella stories and waited and waited for that someday when your prince will come.

Do either of these scenarios sound like you and is this driving you crazy?

If you're a man who is available, single, and have already done the work on yourself, then there is one key error that may be holding you back: can you identify a woman who is truly marriage material for YOU?

If you're a woman who has her act together, you’ve noticed that you have more to offer than most of the men you've met. However, there are some great guys out there so you can find him!

As a man, you've dated beautiful and sexy women who turned out to be moody or worse. As a loving and compassionate woman, you've worked out and done the mani-pedi/hair/plastic surgery rounds and still haven’t found a kind and compassionate monogamous man who you desire?  


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How many kind, loving, and caring men and women have found that the adage "there are more tears shed over answered prayers than unanswered ones" is true because of the above scenarios?

So what's the solution? Depending on who you are and how you think, there are 4 potential solutions to this.

Heartspace® Solutions can get you to your goal: loving together, living together, and marriage. This is based on Herrmann Brain Dominance, a remarkable skill-set that allows us to understand our self and others very fast! 

Here are the 4 paths to Lifelong Partnership and recognize one that is most useful for you. These are tools and skills that allow you to make this happen.

1. Quadrant A: The upper left brain is most active.


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This includes data, dollars, facts and figures. If you're very smart, ambitious, and goal-oriented you may feel sick and tired of potential partners who are looking for a meal ticket but don’t have much to offer you.

If you're a man, you probably want someone who is appropriately beautiful and sexy, who appreciates and supports your dream of a traditional/old fashioned marriage. You probably see yourself working outside the home and bringing most or all of the money to the family and she will create a lovely family and home for you.

If you're a woman, then due to social mores, you're looking for a partner who has a career but can take care of a lot that you don’t have the time to address.

Your pitfall is that the kind, cooperative man or woman you date may have other plans for your money and many have dreams that they want you to fund. Your easiest match is a smart person with numerous skills, including empathy for you and self-empathy to calm herself or himself. 

2. Quadrant B: Your lower left brain is most active.


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This includes safety, planning, and order. If you're all about "standing shoulder to shoulder" and working together to plan the future for your family, note that not everyone thinks this way.

Beware of many potential partners who want you to do all the heavy lifting. If you don't want a disaster, watch how much of a worker someone is. Addiction is a key danger with people who are not "B" enough because safety thinking prevents addictive behaviors.  

The best solution for you is to see if you can fall in love with another Quadrant B person who is equally steady, consistent and responsible. Although they won’t meet your needs for extreme passion, there are people who are great combinations of B and C. 

3. Quadrant C: You use the lower right brain.

You're all about romance, passion, emotions, and companionship. If you're a loving and passionate man or woman and seeking a very passionate partner, then you must be very cautious about the mood swings that are common for "C" people. More than often, they are also not keen on monogamy.

You need to be brilliant at empathy in order to keep your partner calm and bring them back to calmness because disagreements are almost always the first step to infidelity.

You might be tempted by a series of "honeymooners". They satisfy your romantic and passionate nature but that don’t lead to a life that supports children. 

4. Quadrant D: You use your upper right brain.


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You're all about nature, peace, meditation, and mediation, as well as yoga, and art. If you want peace and freedom more than anything, then it’s difficult for you to stay in a committed lifelong relationship with anyone because let’s face it, being with someone night after night is challenging.  

You need someone who is as peaceful as humanly possible and you want to learn self-empathy and empathy to prevent and resolve any tension within minutes so that a relationship is worth staying in for you. Otherwise, you will be great at many things in life, including serial monogamy (or not).

If you intend for a lifelong partnership, then select someone from Quadrant B because they make the most steady consistent partners.

Be careful and approach a potential partner with finesse in order to see what’s lurking under the surface before you fall in love.  

Susan Allen is a a certified Mediator and communication expert and founder of The Marriage Forum, Inc. and Heartspace®. She can answer all your questions at susan@susanallan.org.

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