Navigating the dating world can become quite cumbersome, aggravating and downright depressing. But there is a way to have fun and date effectively. The answer is simple: dating multiple people at a time.
Now, I'm sure you're probably looking at the screen saying, "What? That is not right. That's not lady like or proper." Before you run away and dismiss this idea, allow me to explain the beauty within.
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Let's face it, the dating scene has changed since our parents were courting each other. There is no such thing as dating one person and severing ties when you realize he isn't the one for you. Today's dating scene is filled with men and women dating multiple people whom serve different purposes — the friend, the fun one, the intelligent one, the freaky one … you get the point.
With this in mind, is it fair that people continue to date one person with hopes of it becoming something meaningful and filled with bliss? I think not. You have options and have the right to exercise them. Dating doesn't mean you're married and it isn't a full-fledged commitment. Have fun dating and by no means am I endorsing being sexual with every person you date. Casual sex is not cool.
Dating one person at a time — especially after recently ending a relationship — can increase your neediness factor if you are not careful. You might inadvertently place all your energy and attention in this person. You are too available and life does not exist outside of him. This will scare any man away quick. Now enter the emotional games. You intentionally won't answer his calls because he did not answer yours. You lie and say you have plans and can't see him but in actuality you are sitting at home sulking because you have nothing to do. Instead of playing games, date another person.
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