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Dating Tips: How To Find A Great Guy When You Go Out
Where are all of the good men? Everywhere! But if you're doing this, you might be turning them off.

Three girlfriends go to a bar to pick up some good guys. They spent hours putting on makeup, picking out just the right outfit (a perfect blend of sexy/conservative, so they don't look desperate or too sexual), fixing their hair, and finally slapping on a pair of heels. Time to hit the scene!

They are doing everything they can to meet an elegible bachelor, right? But alas, they are not successful. Those three gorgeous women leave together at the end of the night without any men by their side. "There are no good men!" they lament on their way home. Has this ever happened to you?

Why didn't they meet any good guys?

Sorry ladies, but it's not that there are no good men. There were probably several great guys at the bar that night but they just didn't approach those three beautiful women. Why? Because there were three women banded together. A man is much more likely to approach you if you're alone than if you're in a group. It's harder to break into the pack than to approach a woman who's alone.

How do you get the guy?

When you're trying to meet that hottie, don't sit with other women. Believe it or not, men can get a little nervous when it comes to making that first move. They don't want you to reject them in front of an audience. So, try to go out alone every once in a while. Go to a party by yourself or have a date with yourself at your favorite restaurant. If you see an attractive man, look up and smile at him for a few seconds. Let him know you're interested.

Take out your headphones, and look away from your book. Glance at him for a few seconds, and then look back at him for a few seconds more. If he buys you a drink, that's your invitation to smile and tip your glass. Start a conversation with him if he comes over, and find out if you have anything in common. You never know...

What if you're out with the girls?

If you do go out with your friends, separate every so often or just take a breather from talking, and look around the room for that cute guy. Men don't want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you. They are more likely to come over if there's a break in the conversation.

Don't miss out on any more quality men who didn't want to interrupt your gaggle of girlfriend gossip! So, go out on the town this weekend, and leave your friends behind. You might attract a great guy. And make sure to let him know you're available by making eye contact and flashing your dazzling smile.

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