The Art of Flirting: How To Flirt As A Couple


The Art of Flirting: How To Flirt As A Couple [EXPERT]
Flirting is a sure-fire way to keep your love life hot.
Flirting isn't just for singles. Keep your couple-hood heated up by doing this "sexual dance."

More than once in my practice as a Marriage and Family therapist, I have been asked by a client, "How can I get my partner interested in sex?" I tell them we communicate with more than words. We also use body language to communicate with those we love and flirting is a special way of increasing both sexual excitement and intimacy in a relationship.

Many times clients will say, "But we have been married for many years. I thought flirting was for singles." I tell couples, both old and young, that flirting is a sexual dance that produces excitement and intimacy through a process of approach and withdrawal. In flirting, there is a natural level of tension because we are uncertain of the outcome.

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The Art Of Flirting
Dating couples flirt to attract one another and then to show their interest in their dating partner. They need enough excitement to make the relationship interesting and enough of a connection to make the relationship last. Approaching and withdrawing increases sexual tension and excitement. The push-pull pattern of courtship tests how interested or excited and how willing a potential partner is to make a committed connection.

Many flirting gestures are grooming gestures. For instance, a woman will stroke her hair, check her make up, rearrange her clothes or push her hair away from her face.  A man will adjust his tie, perhaps comb his hair, button his coat or straighten the crease in his trousers.

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People who are flirting also often "palm" each other. Palming is showing the palm of your hand to someone. They may show interest by being livelier and laughing easily or paying attention when the object of their interest is talking. 

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