They say Italians do everything better: style, fashion, food, art, fun and yes, SEX. We can generalize all we want, but somewhere within lies the truth. So what is their secret? Why do they do it better?
The secret ingredient is Confidence. Italian men are confident and self-assured. They dress the part, they look the part, they act the part and they also smell the part (I have to tell you, a good smelling man can flip the switch, if you know what I mean!). They walk out the door with “I am the MAN!” written on their forehead and just make it happen. Even the guys who are not as handsome carry themselves like they are God’s gift to women. Well, are they?
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If you are a single woman in America and you are tired of dating American men who fall short (sorry guys, but someone has to call it like it is), you might want to open yourself up to new adventures and maybe a new kind of man. This is what many single women are doing to find Love. Men who are raised in a foreign country, whether it is Italy or not, do dating and relationships differently (you can get your proof at www.3six5dates.com and follow the dating adventures of 4 women around the world to really see the differences. One of the ladies will be joining me to do just that on my trip to Italy this June, www.AmoreRetreat.com. What will her experience be?), so let me give you the 3 main differences you might encounter when dating men from a foreign country:
1. Wine and Dine: Men all over the world wine and dine the women they go out with without any qualms about whether they are going to get some or not. It is in their blood. Most of them are raised with the notion that a woman needs to be treated right no matter what. Here is an example. When I go back to Italy no matter who I am with, whether it is a date with romantic intensions or not, the man will always offer to pay for dinner or whatever it is and they don’t even want you to offer to pay (trust me I tried and I gotten the typical “forgettaboutit” with an evil look). In America, I have had men actually ask me to split the bill, even though they are the ones who asked me out and especially when it is just a friendship meeting. No, no, no boys, where are your manners!
2. Always a Gentleman: Ok, I love it when a man opens the door for me, or carries my bags, or even pours my water at the table before he pours his. It shows respect and thoughtfulness and an all around willingness to be kind. The other day I was having lunch with a friend and he tells me he is getting water, but comes back with only one cup, the one for him. And I thought to myself, hold up, what about me? I wanted some water too! Boys, where are your manners!
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3. Keep Your Word: Now this one I know is a tough one for a lot of guys, even the foreign ones, but I have seen more of the latter do what they say no matter what. This is important to a woman because it shows integrity and character. It lets us know you are a man of your word, someone we can count on in time of need. On the other hand, when we see you not keeping your word, we find you go MIA a lot and then claim loss of short-term memory, funny how that happens. Boys, don’t be ridiculous!
All in all there are good men and bad men all over the world, but it sure is fun when you venture outside of your home turf and find out there is so much more available to you if you just are open to go outside your box and try someone new.