Journey, path, quest, peace. These are not the reasons people come to my office. They arrive with a logjam of issues. Their language is this: coming to pieces; about to break; can't take it any more. Comfort and calm is what they find when they walk in the door. Hope is what I bring to them in the first session. Peace then becomes their search.
For many years I have been learning from my clients the best, most effective methods to improve relationships, even the ones that look impossible to them. Whether it is a marriage that has drifted into lethargy or the parents of an alienated adult child or an engaged couple wanting to get it right before marriage or a teenager and his perplexed and terrified parents, I have seen it and helped turn it around.
The main focus of our sessions is a co-invention between you and me. I have the expertise about human nature and the patterns we get into. You know the ins and outs of your emotions and the people around you. I offer a perspective and then ask you if it fits. From there we figure it out together.
My methods, each learned and honed, are varied. This means I can design what will work best for you, your personality and your life. I use psychodynamic, cognitive, systems methods. I think of your life as it lives inside many relationships. You learned ways of thinking in your original family, some good, some no longer useful. You are shaped by the relationships in your adult life, at work and in private life. The key relationship to the whole puzzle is the one you have with yourself.
As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, I treat Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, usually using the proven, effective EMDR technique. I treat depression, grief and anxieties in general. I help people with life transitions and painfully stuck dilemmas. I also treat people with is a chronic illness, their own or their family member's. My clients are anywhere from age 12 to 80 Something. Change is possible at any age. Change is worth it no matter when you start. We all deserve to feel contentment.
To quote a priest "Tell me something I haven't already heard." After 29 years, I'm the therapist with the confidence behind all that experience.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
People often ask me, "Isn't it depressing to listen to people's troubles all day?" I tell them the pleasure is in hearing someone at the hardest point in their life and being able to envision how they will sound when they get better. I know how that will feel even though they don't yet. Somewhere in each week of client sessions there will be someone celebrating with me the progress they have made to find peace and even joy in their lives.
That wasn't always so. In the beginning I was just someone who had a natural bent to identify with others and to want to hear their stories. Coming out of college I knew only that I wanted to work with people. I got a thankless job in Public Welfare in a small city in Virginia. I would go into court, my belly fat with my second child, and testify about whether another mother should or should not be allowed to raise her child.
That job taught me to take my ignorance back to school and learn the skills those clients had a right to expect. Do what I'm good at, but learn to do it soundly.
In graduate school I learned not only about the psychology of humans, but also the psychology of me. I knew I could not sit in front of a client and presume to tell them to do what I had not done, to accept what I had yet to accept.
From that point on the work and my life became a matter of cross fertilization. Like your life, mine has been a mixture of thrilling joys and unthinkable disasters. I negotiate through all that, learn the wisdom it teaches and silently thank my clients for their advance warnings.
Someone recently said there is a difference between career and calling. Career is when you do it, calling is when it is intrinsically gratifying. My work is my calling.
Articles by Maureen McKane
|Time in Practice||25 years +|
Marriage and Family Therapist
|I offer my services||At my office|
|I am fluent in||English|
|Licence information||Expiration 11/30/14|