Friends with benefits (FWB) have gotten a lot of media coverage and attention over the past few years and with that have definitely being an ever growing type of relationship. This type of extended friendship can be risky, but if you follow these DOs and DONTs, I promise that your friendship will be as solid as ever and the sex with be great.
DOs 1. Do be honest about everything For this to type of “friendship” to work, you need to make sure that you are honest about everything and anything. For example, both parties need to make sure that they are prepared to be honest if any feelings start to develop. Same thing goes for wanting to end it. If for any reason, either party wants to end this extended version of a friendship, they need to be honest and tell the other person. On a less serious note, be honest about the sex! The main point of being FWB is to have great sex. Be honest about what you like and what you don’t like.
2. Do make sure you are already friends. Since this is all about sex, you need to have a type of comfort with the person for the sex to be great and enjoyable. Also, the friendship needs to already be strong so that it can endure the stress of being sexually involved. Being friends will only make it easier to follow Do #1.
3. Do be absolutely positive you are emotionally ready for this. Having casual sex can be emotionally tough on anyone. So you need to make sure you are okay with having sex that will not lead to any type of relationship.
4. Do wear condoms. You do not want to complicate things at all by taking the risk of getting pregnant. This is a friendship, not a relationship so you don’t want to complicate your friendship by adding the stress of having a child. This is supposed to be fun and carefree, not something serious that involves a child
DONTs 1. No sleepovers and/or post-coitus cuddling. Sleepovers and cuddling can lead to feeling extremely close to someone which may lead to feelings being formed. This is exactly what we do not want. Sleepovers here and there are okay just because it might be a later or night or you live somewhat far form each other. But cuddling is definitely a no go. This puts you two over the line of being just friends with benefits.
2. Don’t get jealous of any other type of relationships the other person might be having. This goes along with the DO be honest with one another. You cannot get jealous of your friend when in this type of extended version of a friendship. Make sure you tell each other how sexually active you are being with other people so the other person does not get jealous but is also aware of the situation. This is supposed to be about sex so if one of you seems to be getting it steadily from another person, it would probably be for the best to end the FWB relationship.
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