'Blue Is The Warmest Color': Is Lesbian Love In Movies Realistic?


'Blue Is The Warmest Color': lesbian sex in movies
The author behind the graphic novel thinks the film adaptation is "just porn."
The Cannes winner may not be realistic, but there are plenty of lesbian movies about love that are.

A lesbian-themed film won at Cannes. Wow! How is that possible? Why did it happen? Is it a film that shows the reality of lesbian life, love and coming out? Or does it pander to heterosexual ideas of lesbian love and turn lesbian sex into a porn show?

Abdellatif Kechiche's Blue Is The Warmest Color walked off with two trophies at this year's Cannes film festival: the Palme d'Or and a special award for its two lead actresses, Adele Exarchopoulos and Lea Seydoux.

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Lesbian film is taking off. The quality of films coming out in this genre is growing. The actors involved are well-known in the industry, often award winners themselves. The cinematography is increasingly well-done and often amazingly beautiful. The scripts are well-written and the acting has moved from amateurish and stilted to experienced and smooth, with excellent story-telling and directing.

Lesbian-themed films are also becoming more accepted in the mainstream. This may be a result of the fantasy of straight men who carry around the idea that a threesome with two women is the height of sexual experience. The problem with that is, of course, that there are very few lesbians who are interested in being a character in that "home movie."

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The author of the book on which the film is based, Julie Maroh, says that she views the film version as having turned something beautiful about lesbian life into porn. She's also disappointed that none of the actresses are actual lesbians.

Another recent film release is A Perfect Ending, starring an interesting cast including Barbara Niven as the lead, playing a married woman who has never had an orgasm. Her life is passing by too fast and she wants to feel passion. She hooks up with a high-end prostitute played by Jessica Clark (who is, of course, gorgeous). David Niven also stars in the movie as Barbara Niven's husband.

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