Ten Things To Remember On A Date


Ten things that will help your date be a success!



Relax. Remember that this is only a first date. Don’t get too far ahead of yourself thinking about where the relationship is going. One of the easiest ways to get thrown off balance is to worry about what your date thinks of you. You should be evaluating him. Pay attention closely to what he is saying and doing so that you can decide if he is worthy of you.

Be a bit mysterious. Even if you feel like you've known him for years and can talk to him about anything, keep a bit of mystery about you. He doesn’t need to know your whole life story, and especially any drama going on in your life on the first date.

Be open to meeting someone who doesn’t fit your usual image of the perfect man. I know that we all have the perfect man pictured in our head. “He must be over six feet two.” “If he doesn’t make at least a million a year and drive a Mercedes, I won’t meet him.” “I don’t date Cancers or Geminis.” “I would never date a lawyer.” Be a  bit more open-minded, and you may discover that a man who is under 6 feet tall is a lot easier to access for smooching, or that the Gemini who you just gave a chance to has a Libra moon and has you over the moon in love. Or that handsome young lawyer that you almost turned down is suddenly making a great case on why he’s such a great catch!

Wear something feminine and classy on the first date. Stiletto heels, a mini skirt and your cleavage spilling out all over so that your date can’t even maintain eye contact is not a way to make a good impression. Did you realize that a man analyzes a woman on a first date, picturing whether he would take her to a business function or to meet his friends or family?

Be a good listener. A man loves to talk about himself and his accomplishments, but then again, who doesn’t? He needs to know that you are interested in him. If you just go on and on about yourself, showing no interest in him, he will come to the conclusion that you are self-centered and not want to see you again.

Be careful how much alcohol you consume on a first date. This can be quite dangerous because you will probably let at least a few things slip from your ever so slightly lipstick-smudged lips that you will definitely regret tomorrow! You also run the risk of engaging in frisky and rather risky behavior that you normally would save for much later in the relationship.

Avoid talking about astrology and past lives. The guy will probably think that you are strange and flaky. So reserve that topic for discussions with your girlfriends.

If you are desperate to have a baby!  Do not bring up this subject, even if your last egg is about to drop!! Maybe you’ve waited too long to start a family and now are in a panic and looking for the future father of your child. But you are on a first date with a man. He does not want or need that pressure. He doesn’t even know if he wants a second date with you, let alone whether he’ll want to father your children!

Keep up on current events. I can’t tell you how many times a gentleman has mentioned to me that he is looking for a lady who is intelligent and can hold a stimulating conversation. A man wants to know that you can hold your own if he takes you to a business affair.

Avoid answering your cell phone during dinner. This is a real turn-off. Here the poor guy is trying to impress you and show you a good time. Please turn off your cell phone, your pager, your Blackberry, and give him your full attention for the evening.


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