Why You Shouldn't Sweat Being Single

By Marla Martenson. Posted on Nov 13th 2012.

It's time to take some pressure off your search for Mr. Right.

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When we think about love, our soulmate, settling down, getting married and so on, we often recall our childhood expectations. For example, today, most women have careers and are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves. Still, they imagine Prince Charming appearing, swooping them up onto his white horse, riding off to dreamland and living happily ever after.

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I have worked all of my life. I never expected a man to take care of me financially, but I sure have always relied on the man in my life to help me with my car repairs, computer problems and any general gadget difficulties. Sure, I have the intelligence to learn how to change spark plugs, but I really love leaning on my man for those things.

Too many people think they should be in relationship ... not because they really want one or are ready for one, but because it's just the thing to do. The pressure to be in a relationship is so automatic at times that we don't even think about it.

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Do you ever notice that when you are single, friends and family always ask, "Are you seeing anyone?" or "How's your love life?" If you say you're not seeing anyone, they all want to fix you up. Your friends all think that you are such a catch. On the other hand, if you are in a lousy relationship, they want to know, "Why are you with that loser?" Continue reading...

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