Dating after divorce doesn't have to be difficult.
Okay, so here you are. The papers are signed, the lawyers have been paid and your husband is now officially your ex-husband.
As you take a moment to look down the road the thought of dating another man is paralyzing and full of fear isn’t it?
There was a time where you were so sure that your ex-husband was the one that you were going to be sharing your life with. The one guy you thought you could count on “til death do us part.’ But those dreams have gone down the toilet and you’re back on your own again. All that certainty you once had is gone and has been replaced with doubt and uncertainty as to what the future holds.
And that is okay because you are entering a new phase of your life. And one day you will look back on this time and see it differently. As you get further down the road and look back with less emotions and a more clear perspective you will see this time as a true blessing.
Because this new beginning is the opportunity to go out and create the great relationship you really desire…and deserve. But in order to find that great relationship you must reenter the dating world. On the surface it’s a little scary isn’t’ it? Heck, it’s been a while since you have been single. But once you realize that there are things you can do to make it easier on yourself you will begin to see that dating doesn’t’ have to be difficult.
Yes, the dating world has changed since the last time you were single. There’s good news and bad news. The good news is you now have a lot more options to meet men. There are more places to go and more things to do than ever before but that’s also the bad news. Because the multitude of options present more avenues for you to become frustrated, overwhelmed and disappointed by men.
As the old saying goes, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince.” Unfortunately, now more than ever, it is becoming much more challenging to get the frogs to kiss because they’re jumping from lily pad to lily pad. But if you can learn to manage your emotions and not take things personally you will see that dating is simply a numbers game.
And once you realize that it is a numbers game, and you learn to keep your emotions in check. I suggest you follow these 5 steps.
1) Leave the past behind you – one of the most common mistakes that divorce individuals make, is that they try to move forward, when they have an emotionally resolve the issues from the past. If you have been hurt, disappointed or screwed over by your ex. Please make sure all of these issues are resolved and you don’t have any lingering anger or resentment. Because if these issues continue to linger . They will resurface in your next relationship and the men you date will be blamed for the unwanted results from your past.
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