Question: I'm in a serious relationship with a guy I really love. He does not want to have kids and I do. What should I do?
Answer: In order to maintain a healthy relationship where both partners feel their needs are being met, each person must be willing to compromise. That said, there are areas where compromise might not be viable. I consider these to be areas of fundamental incompatibility and a strong desire to have or not have kids falls into this category.
Discuss this issue with him directly. Each of you should candidly share your respective viewpoints and the underpinnings of them. It is possible, for example, that you will discover that the real issue is the timing of having kids rather than the decision to have them.
If, after discussing the issue openly, there continues to be no consensus on whether having kids is a mutual life goal, you may wish to consider counseling to continue working through the issue together.
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Yeah, it's fun for like a day until Rose can't move her a*s over on the giant wooden door and Jack dies. Also, telling him you'll never let go and then letting go of his hand one minute later is pretty rude.
This guy cheats on his girlfriend with a girl who then begins to stalk him and tries to kill his current girlfriend. So as the current girlfriend, be happy that there's no crazy woman trying to kill you today.