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Making The Case For Courtship: Let Yourself Be Wooed

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Every now and then, every woman deserves to be swept off her feet.
There's a difference between dating and courting, as our expert explains.

Advancements in our modern day society have provided women with a newfound sense of financial freedom. Compared to fifty years ago, more women can buy their own home, pay their own bills, purchase luxury items and afford nice vacations. The only problem is they can't buy love. If you're a successful woman who is struggling to find success in your love life, it's not your fault. Over the decades, love has become a bit more complicated.

Back in the day, relationships were easier because they were well defined. There was courtship instead of dating. Men wooed women. Now, men and women hang out and hook up. Many people have sex thinking it's the beginning of a relationship rather than having a relationship first and then expressing their love and commitment through sex.

Casual Hookups Raise Insecurities

In dating, physical intimacy tends to happen before commitment. When you have sex before getting to know one another (and one another's intentions), it's the exception that your encounters will turn into a healthy love relationship. You'll tend to behave and act in ways that you think will please him, rather than show your real self. Instead of saying what you completely mean, you'll only partially say what you mean.

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When sex happens before commitment, you'll tend to read more into the relationship than what's actually there. You'll think there's more of a connection then there really is. You'll think that he's more into you than he really is. Then you'll become disappointed, sad or angry when things don't work out.

Courtship Boosts Your Self-Worth

In courtship, you and your partner take the time to get to know and care for each other and develop trust. You're both more vested in your relationship because of the time and effort you've put into each other. You're physically intimate when it's right for both of you and when you do, it is magical.

Courtship takes more courage because you have to be authentic, open, vulnerable and live with not knowing the outcome. If you choose the path of courtship, you'll become clearer on what matters most to you, what's acceptable and not acceptable to you and realize your self-worth. You'll feel cherished, cared for and respected. Keep reading...

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Janet Ong Zimmerman

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Relationship Coach for Successful Women

Co-Author of International Best Seller "Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life"

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