Do men cheat for no reason?
Contrary to popular belief, men don't want to cheat. It's often the last resort and oddly enough, it's also often the last resort to stay in a relationship.
Now, this next statement will sound strange. Men cheat because they love you. Otherwise, they would just leave you. You will hear a man say, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."
Here are 3 possible reasons why men cheat that even he's not aware of:
1. You criticize him constantly.
Men are keenly aware of whether or not you respect them. You may have respected him in the beginning but over time you've lost respect for him.
It shows in your criticism of his thinking or his plans. Maybe you questio why he's doing something or not doing something. The symptoms are all there but you didn't notice because you just want him to be better.
2. He wants more, better, or different.
In all fairness, the second one has nothing to do with you. Men (and the rest of us) are susceptible to wanting more, better, and different. We are not monogamous by nature. It's a choice we make when we want to build something with someone.
The question I would ask you is... what are you building? What purpose do you have together in your relationship.
Every relationship has to have a purpose. Otherwise, people in it are prone to drifting off, losing focus, and becoming distracted by others. The antidote to more, better, and different is knowing your purpose and doing it together.
3. He craves admiration.
This is something men often don't know that they need. The reason a man cheats, that has zero to do with sex, is that he craves admiration. He craves someone who looks up to him, who admires his thinking, his sense of humor, his character, his production in the world.
You might have done all these things at the beginning. All these things that have nothing to do with sex.
Men know intuitively that a woman can only fall in love and stay in love with a man when she's looking up. When she starts looking down, the relationship is in trouble. This is why adoration is so vital to a relationship, and it has zero to do with sex.
To be honest, men don't thrive on sex. They thrive on respect, purpose, and admiration. In their hearts, men don't want to cheat. They will stay in relationships well beyond their expiration date. They hold out hope even when there seems to be little.
You may say I'm overly optimistic about men and maybe it's because I am one. However, I will say to you that cheating is painful for a man as well as a woman. That cheating has almost zero to do with sex and everything to do with respect, purpose, and admiration.
James Allen Hanrahan is a Relationship Coach in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love.
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