The REAL Reason Men Refuse To Commit (As Written By A Man)

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The Real Truth Behind His Fear Of Commitment
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There are many reasons why men won't commit. Here's the key to understand it all.

One of the biggest challenges women face is the mysterious way that men commit.

As a man, it's not mysterious to me. In fact, I will tell you right now that his fear of commitment is all about speed. More specifically, it's about your speed or his speed and in case that's not clear enough. It has to be his speed. 

If at any point during his courtship of you, he suddenly thinks he's going at your speed, he will stop. If there's any magic to a man's commitment, he has to believe he created it.

Finding himself engaged in a quasi-attempt to make you happy is not going to work.


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Of course, he won't be able to put his finger on it. He'll say something vague like, "I don't know why. I just think I'm not in love with you."

This means that a man was going at your speed and it wasn't his idea.

There's no need for heartbreak. Heartbreak comes from wanting something from someone they don't want to give. The irony is that men want to give and they want to commit, but they just don't want to do it your way or at your speed.


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The key is patience.

When you're rich, everybody wants to give you things. When you love yourself, everybody wants to love you. There's nothing you need to do.

In fact, your being and your feminine essence are what men are looking for. This is what they marry and commit to because it makes them better men.

James Allen Hanrahan is a dating relationship coach in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula.

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