Dating on a busy schedule plus 3 ways to simply your search for Mr. or Ms. Right!
If you are like me, you probably keep a pretty tight schedule. Work, family, friends and dealing with life’s little crises can occupy a lot of your time. Before you know it, you realize that there’s something missing… Your love life has been pushed to the backburner and has pretty much become non-existent.
It’s so easy to get distracted because let’s face it, timing is everything and dating itself can be exhausting. Finding guys to date, scheduling, getting to know someone and going back to the drawing board if your prospects don’t work out. It can be discouraging but don’t feel bad or get down on yourself because it happens to the best of us. Labor Of Love: 4 Tips On Dating A Busy Person [EXPERT]
Now this is the point where we have to get real. Anyone who tells you that they are too busy to date is probably using that as an excuse because:
A) They just don’t want to date right now and want to avoid the infamous “You need a man” conversation some people feel compelled start.
B) Have been hurt before in the past and are afraid to get back in the game.
C) Are truly busy and just don’t know how to incorporate dating into their schedule
Listen, we are all human and one of the greatest gifts that we have is the ability to make choices. The truth is we have the power to make the time for things that we think are important. It may force you to get a little creative with your schedule but there are always ways to incorporate dating into your life.
So if you are looking to get back into dating, but don’t know how to incorporate it into your schedule, check out these options that are not only fun, but can also done on a limited schedule.
Hire a Matchmaker
When you’re looking for a job, you work with a head hunter to increase your exposure… right? That’s exactly what a matchmaker does except we do it for your heart. You tell us what you are looking for and we use our database and/or to hunt down your “Mr. Right.”
You definitely want to check out matchmakers in your area and find the best one for you. Most of us offer a free consultation to tell you about our processes and get an idea as to how we can help you. If you are serious about dating to find love, I personally consider the fee to be an investment in your future.
If you are truly a busy person, you will appreciate having some on your side that will screen and cut out a lot of the back and forth and guesswork involved in dating.
Try Speed Dating
Most matchmakers and dating coaches host events in their primary markets. There seems to be this huge misconception that speed dating is a waste of time, but I beg to differ. Where else can you date 20-40 guys who are looking for the same thing you are looking for, all in one night? Some call it a waste, I call it efficient! Don’t underestimate the power of the mini-date. 6 Tips For A Successful Speed Dating Experience [EXPERT]
This is an effective method to find guys but to maximize the experience, you have to make sure you are using the right sites. Singleswarehouse.net, OneGoodLove.com, OKCupid.com are all sites that my busiest clients have had success with. Create a killer profile, with a flattering picture and take advantage of search and matchmaking functionality to find guys who interest you. Don’t forget the smaller niche sites. The more specific you are the better your chances. 4 Ways To Sabotage Your Online Dating Action [EXPERT]
Gay and Single in Chicago? Besides being a YourTango Dating Expert, J. Cameron Gantt is the Head Dating Coach at Insti(Gay)tor, a Chicago-based GLBT matchmaking agency. Download his FREE E-Guide “3 Secrets To Attract More Dates” or contact him directly for a FREE 60 minute consultation.