Why Dating Mr. Normal Beats Dating Mr. Excitement

By GalTime .com. Posted on Oct 31st 2012.

Normal is the new black.

It's funny because when you ask people what they are looking for in a mate, you most often hear things like: smart, good-looking, good job, chemistry, similar interests ... you know, the basics. However, recently I was having this discussion with a girlfriend Julie who has been out on tons of dates, but nothing that impressive.

Just the other day I got a call. There was complete excitement on the line. Julie was telling me that she had met someone she really liked. Yay! Finally! I was so super excited for her, we had to meet for lunch to talk about the guy.

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"So, tell me about him!" I said. The first thing that came out of her mouth was this: "He's normal." I love it.

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Yep, normal. As we dive in a bit, we both agree that this is one thing people seem to be missing these days. Normalcy. Normalness (it's a word, right?). These days it seems like there is nothing but drama, fakery, the housewives, the jersey shore, the one up sickness — it's like everyone has to have something surrounding them.

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I mean, excitement is fun and all but sometimes, you just want someone to be a normal person. No drama, no extreme issues, no quirky hangups, no excessive baggage — just cool and normal.

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