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3 Online Dating Steps To Avoid Being Tricked By A Catfish

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3 Online Dating Steps To Avoid Being Tricked By A Catfish
Don't take the bait and get lured in by a catfish online.

Are you being deceived online these days?  Ever since the television show Catfish arrived on MTV, people are questioning more than ever just how genuine the interactions that they have with the people online are.  Its easy to wonder if the person is who they truly say they are, especially when there are some major red flags that are warning you this person may not exactly be the same person you think you are talking to.  Let’s take a look at three steps you should be taking to avoid ever getting yourself into one of these awful situations.

1.  Take location into strong consideration.

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So the person of your dreams just messaged you.  She is five foot ten, beautiful, and looks like she just jumped straight out of the latest magazine.  There is only one problem.  She lives five hundred miles away.

Think about this logically for a second.  Why would any person, beautiful, or not beautiful for that matter, message someone online that lives five hundred miles away, when they could have the convenience of developing a relationship with someone in much closer proximity to where they live.

No matter how much you convince yourself that you are special enough to warrant this type of attention, the truth of the matter is, there is no reason whatsoever anyone would want to develop a relationship with someone who lives that far away unless they either have no intentions of ever meeting, or are severely afraid of commitment and just looking for an outlet that they know will never turn into something real.

Regardless of the outcome, both are poor situations.  At the end of the day, when being messaged by someone far away, you are likely dealing with an impostor. Especially if they are extremely beautiful!

2.  Pay close attention to any strange behavior.

Most people who are deceiving you will have very strange behaviors compared to the average person.  Maybe they claim to travel and be on the road all the time.  Maybe they refuse to talk on the phone because they, “prefer texting.”  Maybe they can’t meet because they are just too busy with school.  The point is, those who catfish always have a million and one excuses as to why they can’t do certain things.  But when it comes down to it, if the person can’t meet up and date like a normal human being, he or she is most likely hiding just how abnormal their true motives really are.

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3.  Your instincts are telling you that something is off.

You are falling for this person.  You want to believe that everything is true.  But deep down, something in your gut is telling you that the person you are talking to is manipulating you.  Odds are, if this is the case, you are correct.  Most people don’t give their instincts enough credit.  Don’t let your perceived love for this person block out what deep down, you know is the truth.

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