You'll never get a date with a profile like this.
Have you dived into the world of online dating sites but still had trouble getting a date? Or maybe you've gone on lots of dates and just can’t seem to find someone you click with.
Before you assume the worst, check to see if your dating woes are coming from these common online dating profile mistakes:
1. You post bad pictures.
It’s a pretty common online dating mistake to grab your absolute best picture (in any time period) and throw it up there on your profile. Unfortunately, this is a recipe for disaster. Just think about how you would feel if you met someone in person and it was obvious that they look 10 years older than their picture or they have gained or lost a significant amount of weight.
Aim for recent, varied and authentic photos, with a good mix of head and full body shots. Guys, leave out the penis selfies. Ladies, leave out the photos of you with your pets.
This is where input from the opposite sex really helps. Grab a friend and have them tell you their honest impression of your photos. Think about what your photos convey and who you're trying to attract. If you’re looking for a long-term, serious relationship, cover up (this means you too, gentlemen).
2. Your "About Me" section is long and boring.
Online dating is a form of direct-response advertising where you are the product. If your profile reads like a refrigerator manual and doesn’t get anyone to click the “contact” button, it's an uphill battle to meet the right person.
Spice up the language, break up long paragraphs, and don’t write a book on yourself. A simple format works best. This is not the time to launch into a rant about anything or go on and on, starting every sentence with “I."
Have a friend proofread and edit what you write. Look at the profiles of your competition and think about what they're writing about that seems positive, light and interesting. Don’t copy anyone, just browse the profiles of people like you and take some notes about how you can present yourself better.
3. You include long, negative lists about what you don’t want in a partner.
Negative energy attracts negative energy. I’ve read so many profiles that give a short little snippet about the profile’s owner, and then launch into a long rant about what their future beloved should not be like. This is a BIG mistake.
You can rule out people's bad personality traits after you meet them. Putting it all in your profile before anyone's had a chance to meet you makes you come across as critical and negative.
Instead of trying to avoid people you think you won’t like, it usually works better to show a very inviting demeanor on your profile. That will get you a ton of emails. Once you get a lot of responses, you can think about whether or not they're a good fit for you.
4. You mention your exes.
Being a healthy, well adjusted person will help you meet healthy, well-adjusted people. If your profile says anything like “I’ve been hurt BADLY and I’m trying to AVOID jerks that rip your heart out and dance the samba on it,” you need to step back and give yourself a little time to heal. Heartbreak has a rotten smell to healthy potential mates.
5. You lie or stretch the truth.
Last but not least, do not invent or fudge details in your profile. As tempting as it sounds to increase your gym attendance from zero times a week to four, when you meet someone you like in person, it will become obvious that you weren’t telling the truth. It’s important to never make a potential mate feel like they you tried to bait and switch them.
I’m not saying to make a list of your flaws; just don’t make yourself sound like more than you really are. Have your friend help with this. If what you’re saying in your profile makes them gag, it will more than likely also turn off potential mates. Also, if you feel like you wouldn’t show the profile to a good friend for fear of what they would think, it’s time to get honest and show someone.
This article was originally published at Digital Romance Inc.. Reprinted with permission from the author.