Does he have what it takes to create long-term love? Read on to find out.
You probably have a pretty good idea of the kind of person you're attracted to. If you met someone who had similar interests as you and the physical attraction was there, you'd likely feel that you finally found someone you "clicked" with.
But, how many times have you started dating someone you "clicked" with initially, only to find yourself completely disappointed later on?
This brings us to an important question: what exactly makes a man or woman an ideal life partner for you?
How do you know if the person sitting across from you on a date, can create the kind of relationship you deserve, with you? How do you know if you'll be able to lean on him or her during difficult times, if they'll have your back, and if they'll work with you to resolve the challenges any couple will face?
What elevates him or her from just a fun date to a mate — in heart, body, mind, and soul?
You don't want just a date or a fling; you want a "keeper" — someone who will be a true partner to you, for the long haul.
Is Your Date A Keeper?
Keepers exhibit a set of beliefs, actions, and ideals that keep relationships thriving through the good times and the bad. This doesn't mean you need to compromise on physical attraction or other qualities that are important to you. It means that when you find someone you do "click" with, you want to make sure they also have the qualities of a "keeper":
1. They're self-accountable
Keepers are not afraid to question themselves. They clearly put knowledge ahead of ego-preservation and seek ways to help their relationships stay successful. They ask themselves what they could do to change them for the better. They are not out to win at their partner's expense.
Yet, keepers don't automatically give up their point of view when challenged. You know them by their combination of ego, strength, and flexibility. They not only hold their integrity under fire, but also expect that kind of behavior from people they respect.
2. They see humor as a sacred part of relationships
People who find the humor in life are more resilient to disappointments. They don't laugh inappropriately or use humor to mock, but they do maintain perspective that keeps them aware.
Yet, they also have a keen sense of perspective, and don't use humor to lighten up situations that need to stay serious. They have learned the value of timing and a compassionate heart, and can process sorrow and joy with the same gentle appreciation for life.
3. They're authentic
Keepers feel responsible for what they say or do. They don't pretend to portray someone (or something) they are not, or automatically agree with something that they don't. They wish to remain transparent because they don't play games or want to participate in any.
They'd rather hear the truth from others, too, even if it's uncomfortable. Keepers choose partners who value them for their honesty. They don't take that right lightly, nor do they use their authenticity to unnecessarily point out other's faults.
4. They seek continuous transformation
Keepers are genuinely committed to learning from the past and projecting the future more effectively. To do that, they willingly seek constant new ways of seeing their lives unfold. They learn from their mistakes and believe in their dreams.
Most people will choose security and predictability over challenge or change. Keepers successfully blend the two. They cherish traditions, but always search for better ways to help themselves and others. This way of being makes them ever interesting and exciting to constantly be around.
The Secret To Attracting A "Keeper"
Go back and re-read the "keeper" qualities above. Now ask yourself: "Do I embody these qualities myself?"
If the answer is yes, congratulations. Because the way to bring a "keeper" into your life is to live these qualities yourself!
And if you're feeling disappointed because you don't possess some or all of the keeper qualities, here's the great news: now you know what you need to do to get off the dating merry-go-round and find an ideal life partner for you.
Ask yourself what you can do, starting today, to develop these four "keeper" traits. By doing so, you'll catapult your personal growth and ensure that when you do meet the right person, he or she immediately recognizes you as someone they can't let get away.
Knowing exactly what you have to offer a partner and what you truly need from a relationship is a critical step in attracting the right person. To learn how to zero in on the person most compatible with you — and avoid wasting precious time in the wrong relationships — subscribe to Dr. Randi's free e-newsletter. She'll teach you the same techniques and methods she has used with thousands of single and couples so that you, too, can experience the boundless rewards of Heroic Love.