Am I As Crazy As "Amazing Amy"? Take The Test Here!

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Gillian Flynn's "Gone Girl," raises questions about the psychopath lurking in all of us.

When the book Gone Girl came out, friends wondered if I'd ever worked with anyone like the main character, psychopath Amy—aka Amazing Amy. Not to be confused with the garden variety narcissist, the psychopath has a much darker side. Neither is great at relationships, though!

The narcissist will exploit anyone for their own gain, believes in their superiority to others in all things and is vain, self-involved and infuriatingly entitled...kind of like Amy's husband, Nick.

Gillian Flynn's Amy has the hallmark signs of the psychopath—her outwardly normal appearance masks her utter lack of conventional morality and the absence of all concern for the welfare of others.

Now that the movie is out, I'm faced with the question again. In answer, I decided to post my own questions, including the important one everyone asks themselves: Am I as crazy as Amy? You be the judge.

Have you ever:

  1. Thought your partner might be cheating and:

a. Looked through her phone—harmless enough, right?
b. Followed her—if she's got nothing to hide...
c. Installed spyware on her phone—she'll never know.
d. All of the above

  1. Thought your partner might want to cheat and:

a. Had a friend ask him what he thought of various women as potential partners—just curious.
b. Had a friend proposition him—always wondered if he had a thing for her.
c. Created a fake FB profile to try to entrap him into a meeting—if he really loves me he'd never.
d. All of the above

  1. Entered a professional relationships with someone (for example, a therapist, coach, or physician)  because you:

a. Thought he was cool—not hurting anyone.
b. Thought he was hot—not breaking any rules.
c. Wanted to date him—he should be flattered.
d. All of the above

  1. Suggested your partner go out with her friends so you could:

a. Go home to look through her stuff—she'd think I didn't trust her if she knew.
b. Ask her, casually, to send you a pic of the restaurant—because I'd never been there.
c. Follow her—just wanted to make sure she was ok.
d. All of the above

  1. Thought your partner might leave you and:

a. Let him think you were pregnant to keep him around—wouldn't have gone through with it.
b. Said you were pregnant to encourage him to stay—he was so excited.
c. Faked a pregnancy to get him to marry you—he always wanted to have a baby.
d. All of the above

  1. Wanted more or different sex and:

a. Had one or more affairs to get what you wanted—what she doesn't know won't hurt her.
b. Offered to pay your partner for some type of sexual behavior—once she tried it she'd like it.
c. Offered to give your partner something they desired (like having a baby or buying a house) in exchange for sexual acts—if she didn't want to she'd refuse.
d. All of the above

Sadly, these are all things that happen with some regularity, along with their rationalizations. And a word to the wise: having a friend proposition your bf has been known to backfire. While the items on my list are not quite at the level of Amazing Amy's psychopathic antics, they're all dishonest and manipulative ways to try to control a relationship. If you're tempted to engage in one or more of these on a regular basis, consider what's keeping you in the relationship. You also want to ask yourself why you think any of these behaviors are ethical and moral.

Spoiler alert: You know what happened to Amy, though. What started out as a ploy to ensnare a boy by being exactly what he wanted turned into a plot to destroy his life and eventually into murder. It's a very slippery slope.

Judith Tutin, Phd, ACC, is a licensed psychologist and certified life coach. Connect with her at, where you can request a free coaching call to bring more passion, fun and happiness to your life.


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