Men must pay special attention to their ladies this time of year.
According to AshleyMadison.com — the website dedicated to helping married individuals find partners for affairs, the biggest day of the year for female signups is the day after Mother's Day.
It is imperative that men honor the work involved in being a wife, mother, and holding down a job outside the home, especially on Mother's Day — the one day of the year husbands can honor the dedication and specialized work involved in being a mother. A partner who deflects, ignores or devalues Mother's Day sends the message that he takes his wife for granted.
Women are so good at multi-tasking, they often take on more of the household chores, and are usually the primary caregivers to their children. According to my book Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy) “Women work an extra 36 hours a week on family related tasks in addition to their jobs.”
The Ashley Madison website, started in 2001 boasts 8,335,000 anonymous members of people in committed relationships and marriages looking for discrete affairs. Data from the site reports that women ignored or devalued during holiday’s they deem important—Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day, become disillusioned with their relationship, and many seek attention from men outside their relationships immediately following these holidays. In 2010 the website Ashley Madison received a high sign up number of over 31,000 sign ups.
A husband is doing more than honoring his wife on Mother’s Day. He is sending a message to the children that their mother deserves recognition for her priceless contributions to the family. I advise fathers to have the children involved in making gifts and surprising her with tender sentiments—reminding men that children have emotional antennae.
A good gift idea for your wife this Mothers Day would be the Shades of Grey Trilogy. A healthy relationship needs to be worked on everyday by restoring sizzle and romance magic. Its important to keep a relationship new and exciting by adding novelty and what better than the newest adult erotic book series. These books can actually help couples bring back the missing romance and magic. In my book Can we Cure and Forgive Adultery, and Make Up Don't Break Up, I mention the importance of women's fantasies and guilty pleasures. "Instead of simply identifying with the woman in the book, why not act out some of those fantasies and guilty pleasures - and have an affair! But with your own partner!" The best thing for burn-out and stress-busting is sex!
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