When should you have sex with a man you like, and what should you do if he's sexually aggressive?
I got a call from a client earlier today that really annoyed me. She'd been out the night before on a first date. The guy asked her if she'd have sex with him, and when she said, "Not until I know you better," he started getting annoyed and told her she was a cock tease.
I've been in the relationship business for nearly 20 years, and I can't believe there are still men that behave like that. It's one of the reasons I'm so determined to teach guys how to behave with, and communicate better with women.
The truth is, real men who are used to having sex, and men who understand women properly will never attack a women for not having sex with him; especially only after one date!
Men who get angry when a woman won't sleep with them are the ones who don't have sex on a regular basis. They're so hungry for sex, when they get an opportunity they become aggressive. Think of a dog that hasn't eaten for days being thrown a steak.
A guy who reacts badly when you hold off from sex is telling you what sort of person he is. He's pretty much saying, "I'm a very insecure guy who hasn't had sex in ages. I'm so desperate for this opportunity because if I don't sleep with you now, I may not get another shot for ages."
Seriously, you need to keep away from this kind of man. They're not emotionally mature enough for a relationship. Even if you like them, I guarantee it'll end badly for you.
If a guy accuses you of teasing or leading him on, get rid of him as soon as you can. You can do so much better.
I'm going to let you in on a secret about real men. We actually like women who tease a little. It's fun and sexy. Obviously don't push us away, but don't be afraid to build sexual tension with us.
The tease and the chase is all part of foreplay. The more you tease me, the more I want you and the more I'll ravish you when you're ready. If you're with a guy, try it out. A real man will love you and play along; an immature guy will run in a heartbeat!
Dating should be fun. It's all about the flirting, the chasing, the sexual tension, and the pulling and pushing back and forth. And here's something so important: Don't ever let a guy bully you into sex. Even if you love him, if he cares about you, he'll wait until you're ready for sex. Don't be forced into anything you don't want to do. No man or relationship is worth that. I won't stand for guys who behave like that.
I've called so many men out about the way they talk about women sometimes. As a woman, you shouldn't stand for that sort of behavior either. For more free dating advice and videos for women visit www.davidwygant.com/women.
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