Most of you know how I feel about the digital age, and how it’s totally mutilated the way we communicate with each other. The phone call is a fading memory. These days it’s all about tweets, IM’s and text messages. Can you even remember what life was like before text messaging?
But here’s the thing about text messaging. It’s so easy to misread or misinterpret a text message. I’ve seen so many relationships hit the rocks all because of an argument that started over text. In fact, if you make certain text message mistakes, you can destroy your relationship altogether. So, here are some texting rules you should follow if you want to keep your relationship in tact!
1) Watch your humor
I always say it’s important to have a good sense of humor, and I stand by that. Nobody wants to date someone that’s serious all the time. The problem is, when you make a joke via text message, you can’t always be sure the reader is going to get the joke, or understand the tone you intended.
Be careful when you joke by text. It’s too easy to take messages the wrong way. If a guy misreads your message or takes offense at something, you could do serious damage to the way he feels about you. You’re best showing off your best material when you’re actually with him.
2) NEVER text to blow him off!
I honestly can’t stand women who cancel dates via text message. I don’t care whether you just gave him your number to be friendly, or whether you did like the guy and now you have cold feet. Whatever reason you have for cancelling a date, or stopping contact with him, pick up the phone and tell him properly. It’s the right thing to do, and it’s always better to end things on good terms. Who knows how you’ll feel about him further down the line.
3) Don’t be desperate!
I don’t care if this guy is the most amazing man you’ve ever met. Don’t text him 5 minutes after he’s dropped you home after a date to tell him how much you like him. You don’t want to pretend to be busy and unavailable, buy you also want to avoid coming across as a bunny boiler.
One slight note on this rule however. If HE texts YOU, then make sure you get back to him as soon as possible. It’s fine to make him chase you a bit, but don’t make him wait too long for a response. Decent men won’t play dating games like that. Ignore his texts, and he’ll lose interest in you lighting fast.
4) Stop texting him
Now I don’t mean stop texting him completely, I mean keep texting to a minimum. It’s fine to confirm a date, to set up a meeting point, or to send a sexy goodnight message, but apart from that, pick up the phone and let him hear your voice. It’s a much better way to see how well connected you are, and it’s the ultimate way to get him addicted to you. Let him hear your voice. Let him get to know you. It creates desire and attraction.