Everything was going so well, but suddenly he ended it. Here are some of the things that went wrong.
You’ve met the guy you want to settle down with. He’s everything you want in a man, and your relationship is showing all the signs of going the distance. Then out of the blue, he sits you down for "the talk."
Something’s changed, and he’s not happy. In fact, he calls time on your relationship. You’re confused, frustrated, and devastated. Yesterday he was snuggling up to you on the couch, and today he’s telling you he can’t see you anymore.
What happened in the last 24 hours to change how he feels?
The truth is sometimes men walk away from relationships they’re actually happy in. It isn’t always because he’s met someone else, or is having an affair. So why do men end relationships that seemed to be going so well?
Here are a few common reasons…
#1 - He’s Afraid
Some men really struggle to control their emotions, and a lot of men become extremely scared when they become vulnerable. If they’re starting to develop deep feelings for you, it can become quite overwhelming.
It can become even more overwhelming if you’re echoing his deep feelings back at him. If you start talking about plans for the future, or about how you want to be with him forever, it can make him feel completely exposed emotionally. Some men can’t cope with it, and literally start to pull away from the relationship altogether.
When a man opens up and reveals his feelings for you, it’s almost like a cat rolling over and exposing it’s stomach to you. He has to trust you completely. How can you help him?
If he wants to talk about his feelings, listen intently to everything he says. When you’re talking about the future or other emotive subjects, be gentle. Remember falling in love is just as scary for us as it is for you.
#2 - He Worries About His Freedom
Committing yourself to one man/woman is a big thing, and it’s natural for both of you to worry about losing your freedom. Men especially can become very nervous about losing their freedom, especially if they’ve been in a relationship with a restrictive woman.
The best thing you can do, is tell your guy to have a day every week where he goes and spends time with his friends. Let him know you’re happy for him to do his own thing now and then, and you should do the same. It’s completely normal and healthy for you to do things on your own. Just because he wants to see his friends, doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be with you.
Give him his space, and he’ll be happy to keep coming home to you!
#3 - He Thinks You Want To Change Him
Some women have a habit of trying to change or mother their men. Nothing turns a guy off more than a woman who keeps trying to fix him or change him. If he has bad habits, you have to accept them. If he has emotional issues he doesn’t like talking about, don’t try to force the issue.
If he wants to talk then listen, but don’t force him to open up about things until he’s ready. He doesn’t need changing, he doesn’t need fixing, and he doesn’t need you to save him. If he wants to change, it’s fine to support him in his decision, but don't try to push that change on him.
Really what all this comes down to is learning how to speak man, and how to communicate in your man’s own love language. If you take the time to understand each other, and learn how to make each other happy, you can look forward to a long, happy, and fulfilling relationship.