Welcome to our Poll on If You are in A Winning Relationship? We are very excited about our latest research we conducted in New York City, and as we gather our data from all of you who are taking the POLL given on our Business Site, you will learn what is working in your current relationship and what still might need attention if the relationship is meant to last.
Our first order of business is to address the length of time each of you have been dating. This was our first question. "How Long Have You Been Dating?" We first found our subjects downtown. Our couple had been dating 10 months and they believed they had learned all there needed to be learned about each other. We asked other couples who happen to be shopping on Broadway, uptown. Many eager and sophisticated independent thinkers they were. Most had been dating almost two years, or more. Couples revealed they had moved in together before dating one year and some had dated quite a few years before they committed to marriage.
Dating and the length of dating is a significant factor in the relationship. The phase of dating can mean the depth of your relationship. Depending on the quality of which couples strive for, dating can be a short amount of time, say a year, and decide they have met their life partner, to five- even ten years. Generally, in order to secure that you are marrying the partner you can live with and live through major events, a phase of four years can offer enough opportunities that reveal a true personality.
Often, when a couple is only two years or less in a relationship they can maintain the "good behavior" that conceals the true personality under pressure or adversity. Four or more years means trust and letting down guards will reveal the true self under the same circumstances and therefore partners can experience behaviors more true to the individual thereby giving important information as to the possibility that the dynamic in the relationship can be tolerated over time. For example, once four or more years have passed and a relationship has formed the bond and layers of the relationship and personality have been peeled away, personality quirks, behavior, values and cyclical patterns are clearly mapped, giving the couple a more vivid and truer indication of what lies ahead should they remain together.
Take our POLL now and let us know how you did!
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