3 BIG Signs It's FINALLY Time To Bring Up What's Been Bugging You

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When And How To Talk About Relationship Problems
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You've got to know when to bring up the problems in your relationship.

Yes, love is great and fantastic. Walking around with butterflies in your stomach rocks. Hearts above your head is fun.

Beaming with happiness because love is in the air is the best. However, what do you do when something starts bothering you or your level of fulfillment with your partner starts to decline and diminish?

Yes, it can be nerve-racking because you don't want to rock the boat, make the person upset or hurt their feelings.

But, it's necessary to communicate and know how to talk about relationship problems because it's bothering you. Talking about it honors you and the other person to discuss it. Right?

Besides, those issues usually don't go away. They fester and the only thing that goes away is "you" and we don't want that. If these unsaid things build long enough, an explosion may occur.

We are human and things will come up. My point is, how can you identify when it’s time to discuss them so you can get back the hearts over your head feeling? 

Remember, the way that someone responds and is able to work through something you care about is very telling. These 3 ways help determine when to talk about what's bugging you:

  1. You are having a conversation in your own head about an issue over and over again, and the voice in your head is really loud.
  2. The hearts over your head are dissolving quickly and turning into dark gray clouds. You are wondering if the grass is greener on the other side.
  3. You want more time alone than to be with that person. There is a big elephant in the room that you are not talking about and there is a lot of distance between the two of you.

Remember these three things when you’re engaging with someone new, and also while in the relationship. Establishing how you’ll communicate and address things together from the get-go will make life easier for both of you.

This practice also helps to lay a solid and healthy foundation for communication on both sides. If something is in your heart or on your mind, then it is important to discuss and talk about.

A great partner will want to know what’s on your mind.

Suzanne Muller-Heinz is the author of Loveable: 21 Practices for Being in a Loving & Fulfilling Relationship. If you're a woman ready to discover what's really possible for you, visit Happy Living Forever.

This article was originally published at Digital Romance Inc.. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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