Turns out Beverly was brought up to never stand out. Under the "children are better seen than heard" parenting philosophy, she found things worked out better growing up if she, literally, wasn't even seen much. She learned how to become practically invisible so that her parents would pick on other kids from her large family.
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The trouble is that this strategy, which worked so well as a child, has held Beverly back as an adult at work and in her romantic life. It's hard to get noticed by men when you are invisible yet Beverly suffers from Invisible Woman Syndrome.
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Invisible Woman Syndrome is real and this phenomenon occurs as women reach 40 years old and even more frequently at 50. The reasons are too numerous to mention here, but these factors might contribute to your feeling invisible: (1) You stop getting "dolled" up; (2) You choose a hairstyle based on easy maintenance instead of how it looks on you; (3) You haven't updated your wardrobe in the last few years; (4) You tend to throw your hair in a ponytail and fly out the door; (5) You think lipstick is more optional than ever; (6) You might not be in the same shape you were five years ago; (7) You may have gained a few pounds; (8) You wear baggy clothing that covers up changes in your shape.
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