Have you ever noticed that whenever you have a problem, there you are? What does that tell you? Interesting that you are the common denominator - an inner mirror - a mirror that reflects you and your self-limiting beliefs which hold you back, causing the hurdles or keeping the hurdles in place.
What you do think you deserve? What do you think you should have? What do you believe you can have?
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Dr. Wayne Dyer sums it up nicely: “Most people are searching for happiness outside of themselves. That’s a fundamental mistake. Happiness is something that you are, and it comes from the way that you think.”
My friend Heather has a tendency to ask others what she should do or what we think about such and such. My reply to her is always the same: “What makes you happiest? What anybody else thinks does not matter.”
Another close acquaintance, Mary, has developed a special fondness for a particular man. They have been great friends for years. In one breath, she might mention a recent event and says she thinks they have made progress towards developing a romantic relationship. Then, what does she do? In the next breath, she detracts from the progress by saying, “But I don’t think he is attracted to me in that way. He is used to a different type of person.” I tell her in so many words that, as long as she keeps saying that, she is helping to keep it so.
Change your view and you can change your life.
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