There Are Only 3 Types Of Guys — And This Is How They Each Fall In Love

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Many of us have types — we like people who are tall or those who have a sarcastic wit.

But, while we’re aware that we have types, we don’t always realize that we are types as well.

Both men and women fall into certain categories, categories that have less to with how we look or dress, and more to do with how we act.

For women dating, married — or hoping to soon be dating and married — men can be a bit of a puzzle.

The female gender may be the one traditionally painted as confusing, but the male gender doesn’t come with a how-to manual, either.

Some men are standoffish, while others need to be needed.

Some are easy to label, while others fit into more than one category.

Still, knowing about these types of guys will help you give them what they need and — in turn — they’ll do the same for you.

 

These are the three types of men in the world:

The Conserver

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The Converser is a man focused on security; he wants to self-preserve beyond all else.

He usually owns many possessions and lives a life of stability. He’s a planner and enjoys being in control.

Women grow frustrated with The Conserver because of his need for independence; his daily life revolves around time, money, and his physical needs, typically not romance.

Though he’s often selfish, he shares his resources with his significant other; one of the reasons he’s concerned with stability is so he can provide a predictable future for himself or his family.  

As a boyfriend or husband, The Conserver is serious with a tendency to be guarded and spend time alone. This requires his partner to be flexible, understanding, and comfortable in their own skin.

You know you're dating a Conserver if he:

- Comes off more serious than other men you dated.

- Tends to need a bit more space than normal.

- Is overly concerned with money, the future or his health.

The ideal girl helps him appreciate the little things in life — the smell of flowers, the feel of rain, a completed crossword puzzle — while supporting his long-term goals.

Above all, she opens herself up to trusting him completely.

 

The Connector

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The Connector is in love with life — food, sex, the occasional adrenaline rush all drive him.

He craves intensity, passion, and living in the moment. He’s more likely to plan a skydiving trip than his future.  

He's less concerned about money and self-preservation, and more concerned with making an impact.

Women grow frustrated with The Connector because he can be lackadaisical about responsibilities; not entirely, but he’ll put them to the side for a good story.

Still, he’s usually charismatic, social, and not prone to conflict.

As a boyfriend or husband, The Connector relishes in bonding. He wants a relationship that is in sync and places a high value on all types of physical intimacy.

When things don’t work out, he takes them personally and in his worst states can be needy or very insecure in relationships.

You know you're dating a Connector if he:

- Behaves more in line with traditional gender roles — opens doors, buys flowers, takes off your jacket

- Tends to lean in to connect during conflict, rather than withdraw

- Is adventurous and initiates creating special moments with you 

The ideal girl helps him feel sexy, attractive, and desirable.

She spends one-on-one time with him and is gentle with his self-esteem. She acknowledges him for both big and little acts and allows him to come first in her life.

 

The Collaborator


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The Collaborator is a people-pleaser, a socialite who enjoys being liked by everyone.

He tends to be cooperative, to get along with his friends and family, even if that means biting his own tongue. His social status defines him, at least in part, and he cultivates it any way he can.  

The Collaborator, at his best, typically aligns himself with a meaningful cause in life. At his worst, he can get pulled into gossip.

Women grow frustrated with The Collaborator because he goes along with the crowd. He wants to fit in and will do what he needs to accomplish this.

Yet, he’s great for bringing people together and highly values equality in a relationship — something women can’t help but find appealing.

As a boyfriend or husband, The Collaborator feels responsible for the emotions of his partner (as well as others) and values loyalty.

He’s easy to please, and often up for a night on the town or one between the sheets (or something else altogether). He’s also giving; he’ll sacrifice his happiness for the contentment of others.

You know you're dating a Collaborator if he:

- Is very conscious of having a tribe and participating in a community.

- Cares deeply about mutuality in the relationship (sharing, working together as a team).

- Has a hectic social life and a calendar full of engagements.

The ideal girl helps him feel accepted. She values who he is, what he does, and acknowledges his worth to her (and those around him).

His social supports need to be supported; thus, his partner should also be a bit of a people person. A loner and a social butterfly don’t mix well together.

 

But wait, there's more!


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Keeping the above in mind is helpful; if men and women only understand each other a bit more, dating, marriage, and this thing called love grows a lot easier.

As you can see, there is no one-size-fits-all solution to attracting men.

However, discovering these three types of men gets you closer into understanding the values and deeper needs of each guy.

When you know what your man needs, that he may not be able to ask for, you can show up as the woman in his life that 'gets him' better than any partner he's been with to date.

 

Now that you've uncovered the 3 types of men, discover the actions that attract and keep each one of these archetypes by visiting Clayton Olson's website

 

 

 

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