6 Signs He's Just Not That Into You (Sorry!)

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It's better to know now.

We've all read the book or have at least seen the movie He's Just Not That Into You. The book and movie tell multiple stories where women show interest in men, but the guy never reciprocates feelings. The woman ends up completely concocting a love story with an unwilling participate.

In real life, we may create a made-up scenario in our minds to make ourselves feel better when our love goes unrequited. But if you're dating a man and he shows any of these signs, girl... he really is just NOT that into you.

1. You haven't seen him in weeks, but when you message him he tells you that he "needs space."


Here's a thought: how about we send you on a one-way trip to mars to ensure your "space"? In all seriousness, how many of you have gotten this message and think to yourself, "We couldn't be further from each other than my once upon a time dream to be a Victoria’s Secret model"? He's purposely creating space to stay away from you.

2. He's always picking a fight with you.

Apparently, not knowing what type of cheese you wanted meant a lot to you. Does he care? Not really.

3. You get a random text saying he wants to break up.


This should be clear enough, right? Someone flat-out telling you they don't want to see you should make you finally realize that he doesn't dig you as much as you think.

4. He hangs with his boys, and then when you see him next, he acts like you're the worst person in the world.

No, you're not the worst person in the world  his friends are. After all, they are inaccurately judging you and you haven't even met them yet. That should make you wonder what "truths" he's telling them.

5. He sends your calls straight to voicemail.


Purposely avoiding your phone calls should be a clear sign. Let's say you had a great day and wanted to share this with your so-called boyfriend or friend with benefits. But when you call him, he sends you straight to voicemail. Ummm, red flag? Then you text him and he only responds with, "K." If that's not enough to piss you off, I don't know what is.

6. He's selfish in bed.

He couldn't get any closer to the marathon man if he tried. After his five seconds are up and he finishes, he doesn't even help you out! Break out that vibrator ladies; they are more dependable.


Christy Goldstein is a dating coach and dating expert who can help you with all of your dating needs. Her blunt personality helps you move quicker through the dating scene. Contact her here.


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