5 Questions To Ask Before Ending Your Relationship

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5 Questions To Ask Before Ending Your Relationship [EXPERT]
Are you staying for the stuff?

When a relationship is fizzling out, you know it. The intense chemistry you once had with your partner has shifted, and you spend more time not talking than talking. It isn't bad but it certainly isn't good either.

Have you ever stayed in a relationship just for the stuff? For example, do you have a great bed? One woman said she stayed in her relationship just because of a Tempur-Pedic mattress. Do you belong to a country club? Do you own a second home in another state that would no longer be yours if you left the relationship? All of this stuff can tempt you to stay in the relationship even if you know it should be over. Ending Relationships Gracefully

Is your happily-ever-after starting to look a little dim? When is it time to move on? It's important to realize that no man is perfect. No man is able to be everything that you need him to be. So, how does a woman know when to compromise in order to keep the peace or when to communicate to her partner in an effort to make the relationship work?

Staying for the stuff is a common choice, and the examples above are true stories of what people choose to stay in relationships for. Are you in a stay-or-go situation? Would you like a hit of psychic wisdom to let you know what to do next? Here are five key questions to consider if you're wondering if your relationship is over:

1. Do you have any chemistry left? If the red hot sexy chemistry has worn off, how are you feeling about that? Do you miss sex? Believe it or not, some people do not miss sex. It may be hard for you to believe it but in today's marriages, there are all kinds of compromises that work.

If the chemistry is dead, are there other worthwhile assets in the relationship? Is your partner open to you exploring your sexual satisfaction elsewhere? Can you talk about it? Lack of chemistry and sex does not automatically disqualify your man. Should I Stay or Should I Go Psychic Reading Info

2. Are you companionable? If you and your man have many shared interests and enjoy doing things together, that is of tremendous value. Having a companion who likes to spend time with you may not be the same as having rough and tumble sex every night but for many people, it is enough.

Look for signs of companionability with your current mate. List the things you enjoy doing together. If some of your interests are laying dormant, then wake them up! See if you still enjoy his company while doing things you did in the beginning of your relationship. Top 10 Tips For Building Loving Relationships

3. Are you at home in your home? If you feel comfortable in your surroundings and are free to express yourself at home with music, art and food, you have something very valuable. Some tell me they are bored because there is not enough fireworks or excitement. I get that, but you can always take sky diving lessons or take an improv class if you want to get your adrenaline running.

Be very careful what you define as boring. Living in peace with another person can be extremely fulfilling when you release that person from having the responsibility to supply the juice that gets your heart beating. Having peace with your partner can truly bring passion to your life.

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