First Date Advice For Women
Going on a first date? Get some great first date advice for guaranteed success.
If you are getting ready to go on a first date, or have already had a few that have been a bit of a disaster; you need to know some great first date advice. The time women take to prepare for their first dates, either takes several nerve-wracking days, a few hours before that first date, or minutes before without a second thought. Let’s remember that the first date is not a major life event. Statistically, there is a high likelihood this person is not going to be the “love” of your life. From my experience, and from the thousands of singles that have shared their dating stories with me, the avid dater in search of a “keeper” will go on many first dates!
Tip 1 – Have Fun & Show Off That Smile: The first rule of thumb is to always have a positive attitude and have fun in every situation. Smiles are contagious, and men often comment about a woman’s smile. It is a very attractive quality for men, because it all boils down to what makes him feel good. Knowing that a smile is important ladies I would do whatever I could to highlight and showcase that beautiful smile. Great oral hygiene is a must. And I would absolutely recommend teeth whitening especially for women that smoke. There is nothing less attractive than staring into the mouth and discolored teeth of a person sitting across from you wondering what it’s like to kiss you.
Tip 2 – Show Confidence: All of our dating research describes the importance of feeling good about yourself and being confident and comfortable in the dating arena. You can build confidence by working on the skills and areas about you that you need to improve. Maybe you are a bit shy and need to work on better communication skills and asking more questions. It could be that you TALK TOO MUCH and have to learn to be quiet and avoid interrupting. As a woman that’s used to doing a lot of talking and full of ideas it’s something that I am constantly working on! Genuinely feel good about self means that you are doing all the things that make YOU feel good and you can’t be attractive to a man when you’re own self-worth needs improvement.
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Tip 3 – Feel Pretty Men are very visual creatures and they like feminine women. It’s always safer to select an outfit that leans towards a “feminine and fun” look rather than too conservative or overly sexual. You don’t have to expose everything on your first date to make him interested, and a lot of men have confessed how they undress women and imagine what’s under the clothes in their mind. It makes it more mysterious and exciting. If you take the time to get pretty, men will appreciate that and notice you for making the effort. Be cautious not to drown yourself in strong perfume either, some people may even have allergies to or put off by certain scents. Maybe you want to treat yourself to a new lip stick or lip gloss or buy a new mascara to highlight those beautiful eyes! Wearing the right amount of make up is important for your first date in making a good impression as well. Go to the beauty section at a major department store or the a beauty consultant at your local pharmacy and ask for tips and advice on colors that match your skin tone and personality.
Tip 4 – Relax: Lots of women admit to getting very nervous before a date. They tend to be even more nervous if it has been a long time or if it’s with someone who they’re very excited about or have high hopes for. Do try NOT to set yourself up for failure with all these expectations and high hopes that you will meet Prince Charming and live happily ever after. A great way to relax before a date is to do something stress relieving. Depending on the time of the date you may want to go to the gym or treat yourself to a manicure and pedicure. Can you get a massage or relax at home and read a positive self-help or feel good book? Listen to some calm music or do some yoga.
The intention is not to overwhelm yourself playing out the date and planning everything you are going to say and do like it’s dress rehearsal and opening night starts at 6:00pm. The best thing to do is to be as comfortable and natural as possible so don’t try to jam too many activities on date night or date day before your date. Only do activities that are fun and stress free that can help you unwind before your date.
Tip 5 – Don’t talk to much: The main point to remember here ladies is that first dates are not an opportunity to spill the beans and treat your date like a counseling session. He will most likely think you have a screw or two loose. It will get you nowhere. Do not engage in deep relationship conversation or anything negative for your 1st date conversation! Keep it light, keep your focus on asking great questions and taking an interest in what your date likes. Men love attention. Be a better listener than story teller.Dating should be a fun and rewarding experience if you allow it to be. You will realize that if you appreciate the opportunities and take each date as chance to practice at becoming a better dater and more attractive as a person you will be on your way to finding, meeting and keeping the right one!