Anne Stirling Hastings (PhD)
After helping couples with sexual and other issues for thirty years, as a clinical psychologist, I saw that I could be more effective by helping people prepare for love instead of trying to repair after much damage has created obstacles. So I wrote the book, Create New Love: How Men and Women can Prepare for a Lasting Relationship. All of the wonderful information that therapists have developed for decades can help people remove their obstacles to finding a good partner, and then protecting the relationship from harm. I have written an eBook called The Ultimate Online Dating Guide, which is right on the home page of www.CreateNewLove.com. It's free!
As I teach information and skills to help people prepare themselves, I recommend two of my own books. Reclaiming Healthy Sexual Energy: Revised has been helpful for people who just didn’t understand what was going wrong. Men thought they needed more sex, and women thought they had to say “yes” when they wanted to say “no.” Or they said “no” and then feared the consequences. The solutions to this and other issues are in my book.
As I saw how sexual shame interfered with a couple developing the best sex life, and the best marriage, I wrote a whole book on it. Healing Humanity: Life Without Shame addresses all kinds of shame. Our feelings of badness and negativity are about far more than sexuality. Our very culture has included shaming each other as normal. I described this in detail. Then I laid out how to heal from it. First is seeing it going on all around us, overlaying sexuality, and being directed at everyone. Once we can see then we have a chance to stop taking it in. We can learn how to stop shaming others, and then, the best reward of all, we get to experience more love.
My two areas of specialization have woven nicely into the work of other psychologists on resolving conflicts, and on seeing how we project our past relationships onto the present in ways that are difficulty to perceive. Ways that we enter relationships are good to recognize, too, in order to select the right kind of person. And then to take good care of the relationship now that you can see what each of you brings that could cause conflicts. And avoid the conflicts by understanding ahead of time!
WWW.CreateNewLove.com is filled with free blogs, podcasts and videos to get you started. Then we have a membership site with its own social media so that you can interact with other people going through the program. And we will hold Gatherings so you can meet others to practice new skills with – before you need to use these skills with someone you are dating. Come join us and learn how to take love to the next level.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
My psychological practice, and the Create New Love business are wonderfully supportive of my own life as they allow me to be in contact with lots of people who want to heal, too. I may not join clients in the ways that Gatherings do as I am the professional, but being with people doing the work of healing is gratifying. We are all working on discovering what we are feeling, what those emotions mean, and how to best use them. This makes us real, genuine, and congruent. This is the basis of humanity. I have taken on my own shame healing and recovering from childhood trauma. This is how I have best learned how to do it.
Anne Stirling Hastings
Anne Stirling Hastings
Over $120 per session