Spontaneous VS. Planned Sex


Spontaneous VS. Planned Sex
Would you rather have spontaneous or planned sex? Here's how to create more spontaneous sex.

Would you prefer spontaneous or planned dates and

I can almost guarantee you are thinking that
you want spontaneous. But, I am going to guess
that you aren't getting the spontaneity you desire.

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So here is where the planning comes in to help you
CREATE spontaneity.

Awhile back I wrote a blog post about one
of my favorite weekly activities - Date Day/Night/Time.

I am somewhat of a (okay...a total) workaholic and
Date Day is a set aside time that gives my man total
permission to say no computer, no work, no "just
one more thing", only together time.

Frankly, if I didn't plan time to relax or to hang out with
my man it just wouldn't happen. Spontaneous
would not be a word in my vocabulary.

This spontaneous vs. planned idea can be one of the main
reasons you or your partner have resistance jumping
onto the Date Day train.

Here's the thing, if you don't plan time together amongst
the crazy whirlwind of your day it can become easy to
take each other for granted and the desire can slowly
fade away.

BUT when you plan that time it DOESN'T mean you
CAN'T be spontaneous. You CAN! It just means you
have guaranteed time together so you are free to
create that connection, desire and spark so that you can
have more spontaneous sex or other activities.

Make sense?

So if you are already planning regular Dates - awesome!
And if you aren't now is the time!

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Here is my guide to Date Day/Night to get started.

If your partner is resistant to scheduled "Dates" just
let them know that they can still surprise you during
that scheduled time ; )

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

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